Question My granddaughter is 21 years old has a daughter 3 and half years old she is paid child support but spends it on drugs ext.She is addicted to this spice stuff i know she loves her little girl but the addiction is taking over her life ,lies to me with every breath has stolen from me ext.but still days she doesnt have a problem ,sad thing is she really doesnt have anything except her little girl no education to speak of her mom which is also an addict will supply her If all el se fails i myself will ONLY do for the baby but she knows im Not going to let the baby do without so she doesnt try to supply for her this girl needs help really bad but i dont know how to help her no money and dont know what to do about her mom giving it to her i feel help less,the dad of the little one is no better bit does pay but on drugs they just think it nothing,PLEASE HELP
Answer Hi Mary,
It is so hard to watch people that you love suffer from addiction. It is a disease which effects not only the person using the drugs but everyone around them gets hurt as well. You are absolutely right, to withhold money from her at this time. The hard part is making sure that her baby has everything she needs with out enabling Mom.
If you are very concerned about the babies welfare, you can call child protective services. This call can be made anonymously, so she will never know that you filed the report. Making this call does not mean that her baby will become a ward of the state. They can help your granddaughter get the help she needs, or place the baby in the custody of yourself or another family member, until she does.
I would also encourage you to join a group called al-anon. This organization is specifically set up for the family members of those who abuse drugs or alcohol. The groups are free and you will find the help and support you need. You can find a group in your area by searching www.alanon.com.
Good Luck to you and and your family Mary.
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Thank you, thats somethibg i will look into
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