Expert: Jurriaan Plesman, Nutritional Psychotherapist - 12/18/2007

Question
My boyfriend of 2 yrs. Is now in jail for his 5th DUI, he was starting to get back on his feet after not being allowed to drive for 10 years for his past DUI records. He didn't drink every day, only after work on Fridays until the bar closed. Then he'd spend his weekend recovering slowly. This went on for 2yrs. he never had beer at the house, just Fridays at the bar, but then he would mix his Fridays at the bar with cocaine, and beer at the bar, then crack, beer, or shooting up on Fridays' at the bar. Finally, when he was laid off from work, he went to the bar Monday's thru Wednesdays. That's when I told him he had to finally get help or move out! He moved out, and 2 weeks after he moved out, he bought himself a good car, and was about to rent an apartment..And he promised to me this was the last time he would ever drink because he didn't want to lose me and he was willing to finally turn his life around. He was going to start seeing a counselor on Monday, and AA meetings,etc. On Sunday he drove to the bar, got drunk, then left the bar and drove onto the main highway, and was arrested for a DUI...He lost his car, his apartment, the job he had just started 1 week before, and his driver's license...all of that effort in just one night. His court hearing is coming up.. He's apologized to me and said that It's best for me to go on with my life, and that he's sorry he messed up!

I feel for him, I tried helping him while we were together, but he wouldn't let me, he said he would dry out and quit on his own. He never did. So, I had to give him ultimatums, and he followed through the ultimatums,(like leaving if things got out of control with his drinking. I feel his pain, he must feel terrible that he ruined his life again. This has been an ongoing thing in his life.. I think he may be in jail longer than a year. I love this broken man, and hoe and pray that God will help him realize while he is in jail that he needs to take control of his life. His sister says he may have a chemical imbalance because he's been like this since he was a teenager, up and down, and he never wants to see a doctor, he thinks he's a Naturalist or something, like he can wing everything in life with a couple of asprin and few hours of sleep!! He's now 41 yrs. old.


Answer
Hi Mindfulbanter.

As a retired Probation and Parole office I know exactly what you are talking about.  My speciality was the treatment of drug addiction and I have written a book about t. See below.

I use a combination of nutritional biochemistry and psychology to help clients get off drugs. Addiction is a difficult disease to treat, but people can be helped, if they are motivated. The best is to refer you to the many articles I have written, and he should be able to help himself,

Please read:

Drug Addiction is Nutritional Disorder at:
http://www.hypoglycemia.asn.au/articles/drug_addictions_nutritional_disorder.htm...

Alcoholism (Addiction) is a Treatable Disease at:
http://curezone.com/upload/PDF/Articles/jurplesman/alcoholism_treatable.pdf

E also have a

Self-help PSYCHOTHERAPY course at;
http://www.hypoglycemia.asn.au/i-psychotherapy.html

I hope i have been of some help.

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Jurriaan Plesman BA (Psych) Post Grad Dip Clin Nutr
Editor of
The Hypoglycemic Health Association of Australia.
www.hypoglycemia.asn.au
Author of "Getting off the Hook"
Freely available at Google Book Search