Expert: Jurriaan Plesman, Nutritional Psychotherapist - 4/3/2007

Question
Hello,
I am very concerned about my soon to be ex husband. We have been separated for 2 1/2 yrs. We share a 7yr old daughter together, He never sees her. When we first broke up we were angry at eachother and blaming eachother. I was lucky to have someone by my side which made it easier for me to cope. Unfortunatly he did not. His family members are not educated and are not very supporting of him. We dont talk anymore. I left him alone because I got tired of the fighting and getting no where. I dont like the fact that he never attempts to see his daughter and she misses him. I think that is mean. I contacted him because we have a court order that stipulated that he needed to pay some of medical bills. He told me that he does cocaine and alcohol and that his life is a mess. He said he was sorry and that he is very depressed that we are not together. He said that he does not care if he dies. I feel really bad for him because I know that he is feeling lots pain and that he tries to cope with these drugs. I want to help him but I feel that I may not be able to. I tell him to get help, but he just talks more negative. He sais that he feels invisible to the world. In a perfect world I would love him to turn around and be a loving father to our daughter. At one time we were in love with eachother and I still care for him, but we grew apart and now I want him to move on so that my daughter does not have to be another statistic. I fear that one day I will find out that he died of overdose and I never bothered to help him. What can I do?  

Answer
Hello Tania,

This is a sad story. The problem is that we cannot help people if they themselves do not want to help themselves. You have to be motivated to get off drugs.

Often this may be due to the fact that the person may not be aware of the various ways we can stop being addicted.

Most people think that drug addiction is a "mental" disease, whereas I believe along with many other scientists, that it is really a physical disease, that can be treated by dietary means.

Please look at:

Drug Addiction is a Nutritional Disorder at:
http://forums.delphiforums.com/n/mb/message.asp?webtag=clinutrition&msg=183.1

and discuss this with your ex-husband. There are many other articles at our web site that explain addiction and show you how it can be treated.

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Jurriaan Plesman, BA(Psych), Post Grad Dip Clin Nutr
Editor: HYPOGLYCEMIC HEALTH ASSOCIATION OF AUSTRALIA at
www.hypoglycemia.asn.au
Author: “Getting off the Hook” at
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