Expert: Crystal - 11/10/2007

Question
My husband is on drugs. He lies about everything even small things. We have two children he steals everything of value. He broke into my fathers garage and stole a power washer that was my brothers. I know in my heart it was him even if i dont have proof. I know when i ask him he will lie. He has taken things from his own mother. He does not have a license to driver but he takes my car off all the time and leaves my and the kids with out transportation. He lost hhis job about 4 months ago .I pay all the bills ect. I work two jobs and I have little support from my family they feel it is up to me . I know this but what should i do? If i don't give him the keys to may car he gets very violent . He has put his hands on me before and i'm scared of him. My family tells me to just not give in to me but they don't live with him. I have very bad credit so it is very hard for me to find a place to live . The house we live in is in his name so i feel stuck. Please help me.

Answer
Patricia,

That is an awful thing to have to go through and sometimes you have to just walk away and let go. Give him an ultimatum, change your locks on the house and if he appears to want to become violent call the cops on him. First of all, if you are married to him then you have a legal right to be in the home and maybe if you know the landlord and tell them what is going on they may want to just add you to the lease. Nobody has a right to put their hands on you at anytime and you have to respect yourself and your children enough to not put up with it. Have him arrested and give him the choice to either go to rehab or not be with you and the kids anymore. He cant kick you out because you are married.I hope this helps.