Expert: Jurriaan Plesman, Nutritional Psychotherapist - 9/9/2006

Question
I have been dating a guy for just over six months. Last night I went in his wallet because I felt he was hiding something and he was. I found cocaine in a folded up piece of paper. I didn't know what to do. I could hear him walking back down the hallway towards me so I quicky put it back in his wallet. I ask him later that night if he has ever done cocaine and he responded "yes". I asked him when the last time he did it was and he said that years ago he did it a lot but he doesn't do it anymore. I asked him if he was sure and he said " why would I lie to you....". It is all making sense now... he parties all night and sleeps very little ( maybe 2 hours) some nights. Other days he will sleep all day and night. He sniffs a lot and a couple times I can remember his nose bleeding. I am a quite person who doesn't like conflict. I don't know what to do . He also drinks a lot. at first I didn't think it was a problem but now I know he drinks everyday. He has at least 4-6 king can beers ( the big one's ) during the week and 20 or so on weekends. Could you please give me some idea's on what to do. I feel like I have been lied to for the last six months. I love him.  

Answer
Hello Nicole,

This is a difficult situation. I would agree with you that your BF is probably addicted to either cocaine or to alcohol. Whatever he seems to be addicted. So long he remains addicted you are going to be the victim in the end.

I think you may have to confront him. You may have to explain why you looked into his wallet, and the best is to be honest by saying that you had gained a suspicion that he was addicted.

I feel that if he is not going to face up to his addiction, that you may have to distance yourself from your boyfriend, because after all your future happiness is at stake here.

If you BF is willing to do something about his addiction - and he has to be really motivated - then he should realize that most addicted people - regardless of what drugs - are hypoglycemic. Hypoglycemia is a  disease that interfere with the manufacture of the feel good neurotransmitters such as serotonin. It is a condition that probably was already apparenmt BEFORE his becoming addicted.

The first step in addiction treatment is detoxification, preferably under the supervision of a doctor. The real treatment starts at this point.

He will need to go on the hypoglycemic diet and complete the

Self-help PSYCHOTHERAPY course at;
http://www.hypoglycemia.asn.au/i-psychotherapy.html

at our web site, which is completely free of charge.

To understand the underlying mechanism of addiction please read the following articles:

“Treatment of Drug Addiction”
http://www.hypoglycemia.asn.au/articles/treatment_drug_addiction.html

What is Hypoglycemia? at:
http://www.hypoglycemia.asn.au/articles/what_is_hypo.html

The Serotonin Connection at:
http://www.hypoglycemia.asn.au/articles/serotonin_connection.html

“Why Alcoholics drink?” at
http://www.hypoglycemia.asn.au/articles/hypos_prefer_alcohol.html
(This article applies equally to addiction to other drugs)

“Alcoholism (Addiction) is a Treatable Disease” at:
http://www.hypoglycemia.asn.au/articles/alcoholism_treatable.html

Jurriaan Plesman BA (Psych), Post Grad Dip Clin Nutr.
Author of "Getting off the Hook" (Google Book Search)
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