Adoption Issues/adoption


I live in Md. My wife had a child with another man 11 years ago. He never saw the child and has moved far away. I have taken care of the child since day 1 along with my wife. She is healthy and happy. What is the procedure for me to officially adopt her.

Thank you for your question.  You should be able to proceed with this adoption due the fact that you are the primary father.  If your wife was already married to you when she became pregnant with another man's child then you are already considered the legal father to this child.  Depending upon the state you reside and what her birth certificate says, you may already be considered her father.  If you married her after she had the child, you would not be considered her legal father and then you should consider adoption proceedings which in this case should not be difficult.  I highly recommend that you contact an adoption attorney in Maryland to assist you.  This would be called a step parent adoption and it is very common.
I wish you the very best!

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22 years in the adoption field. Michele Fried is the founder and chair of Adoption STAR. Her foremost responsibilities are the implementation of strategic plans and agency growth/expansion, financial management, board partnerships and supervision of the staff. Michele has her hands full with these responsibilities as well as initiating marketing and public relation campaigns and executing and implementing policies developed by the Board of Directors.


Before starting Adoption STAR. Michele worked as an educator in Pennsylvania and then after she and her husband adopted their first child, she entered the field of adoption. In 1989 she founded an adoption agency licensed in Pennsylvania and New Jersey. Micheleís own family began to grow and they chose to return home to Western New York. Michele began working locally as an Inclusion Coordinator for individuals with developmental disabilities. As the years went by, Michele was inspired by the great need for a passionate, advocacy based, non-profit child-welfare agency in this area and so Adoption STAR was born in March of 2000! Michele is very proud of the work Adoption STAR has done and continues to do, and states she is touched by the incredible birth mothers that work with the agency.

Awards and Honors
The community-at-large has also noticed Michele and her agency. In 2003 Michele received a Business First 40 Under Forty Award and in 2004 WKBW-TV honored Michele by selecting her to be one of the communityís Everyday Heroes. The YWCA also honored Michele in 2005 by selecting her as one of twenty-six women making a difference in Western New York. In 2009 Michele was the recipient of a Business First Women of Influence Entrepreneur Award. On May 1, 2010 during the Dazzling Decade ~ A Night of Starís 10th Birthday Gala, Micheleís own agency presented her with the First Michele Fried Founderís Award. In the future, this award will be given annually to an individual whose contributions, expertise, and dedication to adoption mirror Micheleís.

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