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QUESTION: I only know my date of birth and the hospital I was born at.How do I find out anything about her? I don't have a lot of money to pay for searches.

ANSWER: Roxann, identifying birth family members may be as simple as requesting your records. Even if the search becomes complicated, well-qualified help is available free of charge. Thank you for writing.

If you are an adopted adult who was born in Washington State, please print and complete the form at this link:

And mail it to Washington State Department of Health at the address on the form.

Congratulations on your decision to search for your birth mother, Roxann, and thank you for your question. I hope I have been some help. Please write to me again if you have additional questions.

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QUESTION: I was born in California.

If you are an adult adopted person who was born/adopted in California (or any other US State where adoption records and original birth certificates are sealed by the courts), learning more about your beginnings could become a process. Some quests are easier than others.

For California, start here:

Please let me know if you think I can help further, Roxann. Thank you, again, for the opportunity to help.

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Adoption Reunion and Reconciliation - "Do I matter to you?" - To adopted persons and their families, it is an especially important question. I offer guidance related to post-adoption search and reunion. Questions about how to search, what to expect of reunion, and where to locate resources are welcome. Please 'View Profile' for more detail.


Universalist minister and counselor specializing in post-adoption search, reunion, and reconciliation issues. Founder of GrannysCupboard, a ULC ministry that assists individuals who are searching for missing or estranged family and community members. Confidential information provided to GrannysCupboard is not shared without explicit permission. All costs associated with search service are paid by GrannysCupboard. No fees are charged.

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