AboutTerrie Expertise Hello, I am an adoptive mom, past foster parent, I also work with a support group for potential and current birth and adoptive parents. I am also very knowledgable about Open and Private adoption. As well as using a lawyer, counseling, Homestudies, Also Legal Guardianship.
Experience I am an adoptive mom, on online community leader, as well as I am the founder of an Support group for adoption, We help potential birth and adoptive parent's. Find answer's to their need. I also can refer them to appropriate resources.
Organizations United thru Adoption,Online community Leader on adoption concerning Open Adoption and Adopting an Older child.
Expert: Terrie Date: 7/29/2004 Subject: Adoption and Friends
Question We are in an interesting situation. One of my best friends and her family are adopting my daughter's baby. Last night we discussed visits and what would be best for them and for my daughter. She will be discussing these things with them this coming week. I just gave my input, knowing how she is. The husband - father to be - thought that 6 months with no visits, at first, might be in the best interest of everyone. How do you know what will work? Like he said, how do we know that at the end of the visits, my daughter won't break down and make it bad for her and the child. I guess I just have to impress upon her the importance of being strong for the child, knowing that you did the best for her. I just think that if the guidelines are set in writing, each of them will know the road they are on, and what to expect, and deal with it the best they can.
Answer Adoption is very emotional for all invovled. Most especially the birthparents with special emphasis on the birthmom having been pregnant with that child all this time and now the baby is gone and she will have so many feelings to deal with the adoptive parents are going to pay for her adoption counseling both before and after the birth also visits are one thing that should be left Open at this point since NO one knows how everyone will feel untill after the birth of the child. Your daughter may need to see and hold her child Yes no matter what this will be painful for her. I wish you all the best.
Take care
Terrie
