AboutTerrie Expertise Hello, I am an adoptive mom, past foster parent, I also work with a support group for potential and current birth and adoptive parents. I am also very knowledgable about Open and Private adoption. As well as using a lawyer, counseling, Homestudies, Also Legal Guardianship.
Experience I am an adoptive mom, on online community leader, as well as I am the founder of an Support group for adoption, We help potential birth and adoptive parent's. Find answer's to their need. I also can refer them to appropriate resources.
Organizations United thru Adoption,Online community Leader on adoption concerning Open Adoption and Adopting an Older child.
Question Hi Terre,
I am a bmom of the late 70's, I found my son in 1998. On an emotional healing level I support mothers who have lost children to adoption and adult adoptees.
I have two very general questions, I"d like to know if potential bmoms of today are offered other options than adoption, such as support to keep her baby. I noticed that the program for the Infant Adoption Awareness program did not offer support if a mother chose to parent her child. My other question is are adoptive parents held accountable to an open adoption with the birthparents?
Thanks for your time
Ronna
Answer Ronna a lot still depends on if the agency etc gives information on all of a potential birthparents choices and of course the first to be that of parenting their own child. Many will give information but do not seem to offer any assistance to moms that are just in need of information or guidance and may feel lost. Also as to open adoptions a few states have Open adoption laws on their books my state that of Nebraska does not have an open adoption law meaning an open adoption is only as valuable as the people whom enter into that also means that sadly as I have seen to often happen the adoptive parents get what they want a child then leave the birthmom or birthparents with NO word of that childs ongoing welfare of ongoing contact. Most would be adoptive parents are well meaning in the promises but as we both know it only takes a few to give open adoption a bad name. I do feel for those that have felt the need to place their child and entrust that child to anothers care the hardest cases are where the birthparents were forced or coerced into placing a child they had no intent of placing for adoption. I would love to hear back from you I am so sorry for my late reply.
Take care
Terrie
