AboutTerrie Expertise Hello, I am an adoptive mom, past foster parent, I also work with a support group for potential and current birth and adoptive parents. I am also very knowledgable about Open and Private adoption. As well as using a lawyer, counseling, Homestudies, Also Legal Guardianship.
Experience I am an adoptive mom, on online community leader, as well as I am the founder of an Support group for adoption, We help potential birth and adoptive parent's. Find answer's to their need. I also can refer them to appropriate resources.
Organizations United thru Adoption,Online community Leader on adoption concerning Open Adoption and Adopting an Older child.
My husband and I have been approached for a private adoption (our first). Another adult (Sue) is acting as an intermediary for the 21 yr old birth mother. Sue has requested a "profile" on us via my sister-in-law who is our mutual friend and how Sue learned that we were interested in adoption. How much do we reveal in a profile? Should I include photos of us? At this point I don't know if the birth mother has decided to adopt out the child. She is already the single mother of one and on Medicaid. We are told via the sister-in-law that we are the only adoptive parents being considered. I also don't know how "open" this adoption might be if it happens.
Answer Hello Ellen, A profile, tells a bit about you, include some pictures, some of you, any pets, other children you may have, also I am told to include things that make her feel like she gets the true you so to speak, that may be vacations, walks family time, do you spend time with your familes? Friends? I see lots of pcitures online including people with either their children or if they do not have children them with a niece or friends child. Make it personal, what are your individual interests? Your hobbies? One never knows what a potential birthmom may be looking for so I always advice to be yourself. I would If I was you ask if this young woman would like to meet you. Unless she is insisting On no contact. I think meeting our sons birthmom was what helped her decide that were the Family for her child. Reveal your name first names is fine, or that of the city or town you live in or near or general area if that is more comfortable with. It does help to include that your child will grow up knowing that they are adopted, and loved by the birth parent. Also their are many dear birthparent letter's online, they are somewhat different then a profile but I would make your profile to what you personally are happy with.
Pictures help in making you real. I would not dwell much on infertility if that is a problem, its ok to mention it. If you have a baby room ready include a picture if not maybe mention your dream of that room, this is a personal choice thing. I would mention your marriage if your married, your neighborhood are their other children? Do you live in the country? City etc talk about that if you wish. Good Luck. I know this is hard. Waiting itself to find your child is hard in itself. Good Luck
Terrie
If you wish our dear birthmom letter is at this address. http://www.waiting4ourangel.homestead.com
Our more basic info is here. Maybe these will give you a bit of some ideas of what you do or do not like. http://kellyterrie.hopetoadopt.com
Note. We wait for a child to do a legal guardianship for, Ages 0-4, any race, very open to an African american child or mixed race.Open and ongoing contact and open to twins or sibling's, and to many special needs. Email me at the address on our dear birthmom letter. I am an adoptive mom not an adoption professional. Do you have a homestudy done yet? That might be important for this potential birthmom to know as well.
