About Jodi Expertise I myself am adopted. My parents and biological mother fought in court for over 5 years to gain custody. My case was the first national recognized case by the US surpreme court. I can help you find a family for your child and answer questions about your different adoption options (as there are many different types of adoptions). I can give biological fathers advice and references to help them gain custody of their child, should the mother chose to put it up for adoption. I can also give you advice as how to find your bioligical family and the best ways to reunite with them.
Experience I was adopted as in infant, only the papers werent signed right away by the judge, thus throwing my family into a court battle for over five years. My case "wrote" the book and is referd to in many of todays legal battles in court over adoptions. Luckily for me mine had a sweet ending and the judge finnaly signed the papers five years to my birthdate. I have helped several young girls place their babies up for adoption. (i am a youth crisis intervention counsler). I also helped my brother fight to adopt his son, after the mother had placed him up for adoption. Unfortuntely, we lost that one.
Expert: Jodi Date: 11/24/2004 Subject: attempt to regain custody from adoptive parents
Question Hi,
I have an 8 month old daughter who I raised for 6 months before I was forced to find a family for her. She is now across the country and her father sounds ready to raise her. The adoption has not been finalized and I want to know what to do and what is best. If I act now, can I avoid a lengthy and expensive fight?
Answer Unless the adoptive parents are willing to simply hand her back over and stop the adoption proceedings you will be looking at a very long and costly road ahead.
My adoption case took alittle over 5 years to settle, and the case with "baby jessica" in the early 90's took 2 years to settle.
Nor would it be healthy to the child. She would in time bond once again with you, but the emotional damage would of been done. She has already had to adjust once to "new" surroundings and parents. You really need to search your heart and soul as to if you really want to put her through that again.
If this adoptive family has other children, you will also be damaging their emotional health and future stabliity.
My older brother ended up with many learning, emotional and ultimately phsyical issues (physical due to stress) from my custody battle. From nightmares to ADDHD to severe migraines that led to eye damage. Some children do respond better but most don't.
I would urge you to first contact the family. Tell them about the situation, and your feelings. See if they would be willing to give her back, or atleast maintain an open adoption and go from there.
