Expert: Fox - 5/3/2006

Question
-I HAVE BEEN LOOKING FOR YOUR SECTION ON GREAT SEX, I CANNOT FIND IT. I HAVE A GF AND I LOVE HAVING SEX. SHE IS VERY HOT AND AS SOON AS I SEE HER GET TURNED ON MAKES ME WANT TO CUM, SO I HAVE TO SLOW DOWN OR CUM, HOW DO YOU RECOMMEND TO HAVE A GOOD STAMINA? WHAT DO PORN ACTORS TAKE OR USE, OR IS IT NATURAL (FOR THEM)
-SHE IS VERY GOOD LOOKING I AM YOUR AVERAGE GUY (OR JOE), TALKING HER INTO PORN CAN WE BOTH MAKE IT INTO THE INDUSTRY. SHOULD WE BOTH GO TO LA WITH A HOME MADE VIDEO OR WHAT......?

Answer
Rico,

YES you can make it in porn because she is so hot, but ONLY if she wants to. And you won't get into the industry without her. You have it down to a tee: slow down before you cum. That's right.

It doesn't just happen. You can stop before you cum. You can then keep going. It's not out of your control, you just need more practise at controlling it.

You need to learn control. You don't just need to masturbate before you see her, you need to masturbate WITHOUT cumming, taking yourself to the edge of orgasm and then STOPPING, and then starting again, and you need to do it for an hour at a time, and then longer and longer until you can literally CONTROL your own orgasm.

I know it's hard, but you need to get to a stage where you can pound the shit out of her, on the edge of orgasm, without cumming. That's when you're at maximum strength and hardness. Every time the orgasm is approaching, you slow down, or stop, and let it subside, then carry on. Here's some more detailed advice on it:

Doctors will give you pills for this, and everyone will have an idea of how it can get better. I'm not telling you not to listen, but pills and advice from those who haven't experienced such a thing are not really the answer. Having said that, if nothing else works and you're depressed, I guess you could try pills and go see the doctor.

But first, this might work:

When you're alone, and horny, start playing with yourself. You know, however you usually do it, thinking about girls, or sex, or looking at magazines or watching movies, while you're online, whatever.

Then, as you're nearing orgasm, reaching the brink, STOP. Let the feeling go away, and once you know you're not about to cum, start again. Now, this is a task which involves LOTS of self-control, but I know you can do it because I know others who have.

Just be determined - you're gonna make yourself feel good, but RIGHT before you cum, as soon as you feel it coming on, you stop. And as soon as it goes away, you start up again. And you go and go and go until you're almost there - then you STOP. Now do that as many times as you can stand, and after, like, say, fifteen or twenty minutes, then cum. It should feel pretty good.

Next time you masturbate, do it for half an hour. Then forty minutes. After three weeks, I want you doing it for ONE HOUR. Looking at hot magazines or movies will definitely keep you stimulated long enough. Just DON'T CUM. After an hour of playing with yourself without cumming, your orgasm should be spectacular and noticeably better because you held back.

Once you feel like you have that self-control, you can try it with a woman. Of course, it's going to be harder having some sexy girl there naked moaning and her pussy sucking on your cock. But... you can do it.

Every time you're about to cum in her, stop, and relax. Then as soon as the feeling passes, start fucking her again. If she's wondering what's going on, communicate with her, be honest. Tell her you were about to cum because she looks so good or because she feels so good, but that you didn't want to 'cause you wanna fuck her longer.

Once you have the "holding back" thing down, you should be over your problem. Then comes the problem of fucking her good, hard, and long, without cumming. Like, without even REACHING that point so you have to suddenly pause; not reaching orgasm until you want to.

The way to do that, I find, is to count. Yes, count. Each stroke, you just count. Don't concentrate on her sexy body or her pussy, concentrate on pounding your cock in her and counting how many times you do it. Count up to a hundred. You should do about a hundred in a minute if you're fucking her really good. Two a second is a REALLY fast fuck. When you reach a hundred, relax for a few seconds, then start all over again. You can do that for hours if you have the physical durability. And the consistency and brutality of the rhythm will make her cum like crazy.

Let me know how all of this goes. Your orgasms and self-control WILL improve if you listen to what I'm saying and follow it to the letter. You CAN do this. Anyone can. If you want to and you believe in it.

One more thing: if it never gets better, don't worry about it too much. Do you know that from penetration to orgasm the average session of intercourse in the USA lasts for four minutes? THAT'S THE *AVERAGE*. So for every half an hour man, there's a five second man. You know, you're really not that bad, even if you never get any better! But you will. You will.

As for the style of giving it to her, I think that to really be sure of making her cum hard with your cock, you should give it to her from behind.

There is no right or wrong motion for doggy style sex, although hard slamming and pounding with a fast pace is usually the most productive, and (especially in doggy style), grinding her slow in a circular motion can REALLY get her off cause your cock touches places it doesn't usually touch. But it's best used in conjuction with the slow, deep, hard drives, the fast pounding slamming brutalizing fucking, and the soft in and out lovemaking style.

So, try entering her from behind, sliding in and out slowly, then getting harder, then once you're at full strength, pounding her, grabbing her hips, slamming her to orgasm, then when she's cum a few times, changing it up to a circular motion. Then back again. Then again. Variation is hot.

And another thing: the rhythm is usually important. When you're slamming her, try to get a really good rhythm going, a good momentum. That's always good.

As for getting into porn, you're halfway there because you have a hottie female pornstar, she'll have to insist on working with you, or you won't get in.

Getting into the porn industry is very very difficult if you are a man. You must be able to get it up, keep it up, and then cum within 2 or 3 minutes of being asked. That is a given. You have to be at least 7 inches and very thick, preferably over eight. You have to be in some kind of physical shape, and you have to have stamina. You have to be willing to work with any girl in any situation, and be prepared for stop-start sex.

Sending pictures will get you nowhere. You have to actually GO to the studios and introduce yourself and then they will take naked polaroids of you and get back to you. But even then, your chances are minimal.

There is always a market for porn actors, regardless of your background and personal requirements, but at the same time you have to have (a) talent, (b) luck, and (c) you must be in a good location. New York, Miami, San Fran, London, Amsterdam, Copenhagen, Hamburg, Prague, Budapest, Montreal, Toronto, Vegas, even Minneapolis all have decent porn-producing studios, but 95% of the top adult movies in the world today are produced in Porn Valley. That is the San Fernando Valley in NorthWest Los Angeles, California. If you don't live in or near that valley, your chances are automatically significantly smaller.

Once you're in the Valley, go to VCA Platinum, Elegant Angel, Metro or Wicked (in Chatsworth), Vivid (in Van Nuys) or Sin City (in Canoga Park). But as I said, your chances of getting hired as part of a walk-in are extremely low.

If you're looking for low-budget internet porn jobs, they are out there, and searching on yahoo and google and excite can be productive. Instead of looking for advertised jobs, look for actual sites which offer the kinds of porn you'd like to be involved in and think you have a chance of being involved in). Then, make sure the porn is made by and for the website itself, then contact the webmasters and owners of the site and try and strike up a negotiation for an appearance in a movie for them. Of course, you need to have your photographs and details online.

Now assuming you go to the Valley, or somewhere similar, the best advice is always to find a stunning girl who wants to be a pornstar, and go to a studio with her. The girl should specify that she wants to work with you and the - ouila - you have a job. They'll always hire a hot girl, and if she's only willing to work with you, you just received a free ticket into porn superstardom.

If you're looking to do gay porn, the girl is unneccessary and it will be ten times easier for you to get a job. Gay porn stars are always needed and if you're willing to do that, unless you're completely unattractive to most men, you will get work in LA.

The old/young/kinky/hardcore thing is vital, especially if you are not bringing a new female into the industry, as they call it. You have to be willing to do ANYTHING and they will often start you off on something gross. Naturally, you'll have to perform very well in your first few movies particularly, and then you'll also have to work for small amounts until you're well known.

If you're thinking of mainstream acting or what not, you almost certainly will be exposed by the paparazzi. Once you do porn, your ENTERTAINMENT career is permanently red-flagged. Just come up with an alias and make it clear that your identity is to be kept a secret. Many pornstars do that.

If you're looking to get into gay porn in particular, it's simple. Move to LA. Go to the gay porn studios (they're in the book, they're all over the place), and walk right in and audition. They'll know within five minutes if you're what they're looking for and they're ALWAYS hiring.

Agents and agencies are sometimes OK but usually not, be very careful. The best thing to do is to write to a few male porn stars and ask them how they got involved, and how to get involved, agency/agent/studio wise. They'll tell you. It will probably even be in their online bios.

If you have a girl with you, and she's hot, and she wants to do porn with you, I suggest you go to JIM SOUTH at World Modelling on Van Nuys Boulevard in Sherman Oaks, Los Angeles, California. He's in the phone book.

Anyway... bottom line is... if you like the sun, go to Los Angeles. If you don't, go to Germany, the Czech Republic or Hungary. Because you're not going to find work anywhere else unless a miracle happens.

Good luck and I hope to see you slamming your cock into Amber Michaels' ass in the near future.

Sincerely
Fox