Expert: - 5/11/2007

Question
Hi,

i have a question that is troubling me
1)
are women sexually oriented? and if not then WHAT ATTRACTS WOMEN????

2)
it is very easy for a casual woman to atrract hansim men easily but it is very difficult for a man to attract a woman. do you agree? why?

3)
most of the porno movies, sites etc. are made for men to read it and not for women to read it. however, there are very small percentage of porno which are intended for women to enjoy but they are not purchased as much as the ones for men and the majority of buyiers are men either for their pleasure (gay) or to make their partner horney. what do you think?

Answer
Thanks for your question.  You are having the same thoughts/questions as millions of other men have had, do have, and will have.  The relationships and differences between men and women is something that both sexes often have a great deal of difficulty understanding.

To try and answer your questions #1 & #2:  Women are not so different from men as you may think, particularly in this day and age, in Western cultures, where women are, for the most part, treated as equals (equal doesn't mean same, however), and have an unprecedented level of freedom.  For example, women are equally as visually attracted to men, as men are to women, however women to not generally act upon that attraction in the same way as men do.  Mind you, ask the bouncers and staff at a strip bar that hosts "ladies nights" (with male strippers) and I think you will find that the ladies are an equally or even more rowdy crowd then the men!

From a more scientific perspective, however, women are usually driven by different concerns when it comes to long-term relationships.  Men tend to favour having a hot girlfriend or wife who will rely on the man to provide for her and the family; whereas women are more inclined to seek a man who can and will provide long term stability, and make for a good father.  It is, of course, more complex than that, and biological, sociologic, religious and other factors do come into play, and shape each of us as we grow and mature, and ultimately also influences who we seek to have relationships with, and who we ultimately end up with.

You may find the following link useful to provide you with some information:

How To Be Irresistible To Women
http://www.pornoworldonline.com/how_to_be_irresistible_to_women

Picking Up Women
http://www.pornoworldonline.com/picking_up_women

Regarding your 3rd question about porno movies/sites - I think that you will find a surprising number of women who enjoy porn just as much or more than many men.  I think it fair to say that still, the vast majority of porn is purchased by men, and men are the target audience for most porn, but more and more women are finding porn entertaining and useful for masturbation, and to share with their partners.  Porn can also be a good communication tool for couples to learn about things that their partner enjoys or is stimulated by.  For example, a good way to find out what turns a man on is to see where he has his porn movies paused at.