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| Subject | Date Asked | Expert |
| First time now jealousy | 1/31/2012 | Michael Andrews |
| Q: Join nude club Oct 2011 this is first time for that and 1/28/2012 first time for this swinging ... A: The two of you need to have an honest discussion about why you both want to get involved in ... | ||
| Nervousness | 1/30/2012 | Michael Andrews |
| Q: My wife has never swing before. I had with my ex-wife. My wife has finally agreed to trying out ... A: What you could do is focus on helping her feel more sexy. She probably has concerns about how she ... | ||
| 1st time swing for young couple | 1/29/2012 | Guycurious |
| Q: My girlfriend and I have been dating for 5 years now, I am 25 and she is 21. Recently the topic of ... A: I must admit your depth of research and planning on this topic at your age is remarkable. I'm very ... | ||
| What should i do? | 1/29/2012 | Michael Andrews |
| Q: Im a female and this cashier who is also a female and she is married. well she keeps staring at me ... A: You need to make the decision - think it through and decide if you really want this person to be ... | ||
| What should i do? | 1/29/2012 | Michael Andrews |
| Q: Im a female and this cashier who is also a female and she is married. well she keeps staring at me ... A: Do you want her to be your friend? Do you think she is someone who would make you feel good to be ... | ||
| FFM threesome | 1/26/2012 | Michael Andrews |
| Q: My wife and I have been married for over ten years and (I know this is difficult to believe) have ... A: sounds like you have a great relationship; however I think you have found the real cause of the ... | ||
| FFM, curious, but reluctant wife | 1/26/2012 | Guycurious |
| Q: My wife and I have been married for over ten years and (I know this is difficult to believe) have ... A: I suggest breaching the topic again just to make sure your wife still holds the same position. Let ... | ||
| First Swinging Experience - dos and don'ts | 1/25/2012 | Guycurious |
| Q: My wife, R, and I, B, have been married for 7 years and 9 years in a committed relationship. We have ... A: As long as your relationship is sold and you have honest, open lines of communication and have ... | ||
| Returning to normal self | 1/18/2012 | Michael Andrews |
| Q: I'll be short and concise, my only form of pleasure so far has been from porn, pics, etc. A year or ... A: Yes it's a good idea to stay away from those sites. You would be better to focus on developing the ... | ||
| Intimacy - Is there a place for this with another women? | 1/2/2012 | Michael Andrews |
| Q: I am seeking some advise to deal with my hurt feelings. My partner and I have been to sex club a few ... A: There are several things going on here and feelings of jealousy can certainly arise. The issue is ... | ||
| can this be fixed? | 12/29/2011 | Guycurious |
| Q: I have been with my boyfriend for a year and a half. Very early on in the relationship, he brought ... A: The lifestyle is not for everyone. Now that you have tried it you can make the decision whether or ... | ||
| Can this be fixed? | 12/29/2011 | Michael Andrews |
| Q: I have been with my boyfriend for a year and a half. Very early on in the relationship, he brought ... A: It appears there are a couple of things going on here that are causing conflict between you. ... | ||
| relationship bloomed | 12/17/2011 | Michael Andrews |
| Q: I had the chance to swing with a couple and have been with also been with just her. It started out ... A: This sounds a bit complicated and difficult and I'm not sure there is a simple solution. The way ... | ||
| Taken the wrong decision? | 12/5/2011 | Michael Andrews |
| Q: I am a 24 year old male, 5'9", 200 lbs. My problem is somewhat of an embarrassing one which is why I ... A: A good idea to stay away. Even if it's not doing you any harm (which it may be), is it doing you any ... | ||
| Doing the right thing? | 12/4/2011 | Guycurious |
| Q: I am a 24 year old male, 5'9", 200 lbs. My problem is somewhat of an embarrassing one which is why I ... A: With pornography the bar always needs to be raised to achieve the same level of arousal. At first, ... | ||
| Taken the wrong decision? | 12/4/2011 | Michael Andrews |
| Q: I am a 24 year old male, 5'9", 200 lbs. My problem is somewhat of an embarrassing one which is why I ... A: To be honest I think you have nothing to worry about. I think you'll find that when you do meet ... | ||
| Revisit the Question | 12/1/2011 | Guycurious |
| Q: Recently my girlfriend initiated the topic of swinging. She started off by making me "promise not ... A: Tell her you thought further about the idea and now you're interested. If she says no way, then let ... | ||
| Unhappy with our options.. | 11/30/2011 | Michael Andrews |
| Q: my husband and I have been together 8 years and in the lifestyle for 2. We have always stuck to our ... A: I don't think you should feel bad about questioning your ground rules. But I also think you need to ... | ||
| jealousy.... | 11/25/2011 | Guycurious |
| Q: It is so hard to accept that my boyfriend desires other women.... how can I get over it? I told him ... A: My wife knows I desire other women sexually but my heart belongs to her and her alone. For us sex ... | ||
| Boiling blood and hurt feelings | 11/24/2011 | Guycurious |
| Q: I need advice....My partner and I are middle aged and have been together going on five years. A few ... A: All relationships become comfortable after some time and people delve into the lifestyle hoping it ... | ||
| mfm | 11/7/2011 | Michael Andrews |
| Q: My wife and I have been swinging for 8 years,by now nothing bothers us,we have no jealousy etc We ... A: Tricky situation. It certainly seems on the face of it that things have moved beyond the swinging ... | ||
| guilt for cheating on husband | 10/23/2011 | Michael Andrews |
| Q: My story starts with my husband always asking me to flirt with other men. I am 50 years old and this ... A: How lucky you are that you could tell you husband everything..... you must have a great ... | ||
| Shy and Nervous Newbie Wife | 10/13/2011 | Guycurious |
| Q: I need your help in understanding what my wife REALL MEANS, when she says MAYBE to swinging. My ... A: I think your wife is trying to indulge your fantasies but in a safe manner only. She knows you want ... | ||
| bad first experience | 9/9/2011 | Michael Andrews |
| Q: I was the one who went to my husband with my thoughts and fantasies of being with another women , of ... A: Swinging is a great way to deepen your connection and love with your spouse or partner - but if you ... | ||
| Cheating | 8/14/2011 | Guycurious |
| Q: My wife and I have been in the swing lifestyle since January this year. We met a couple (I'll call ... A: I agree with you, Don is cheating on his wife. The only way people can participate in the Lifestyle ... | ||
| Cheating | 8/14/2011 | Michael Andrews |
| Q: My wife and I have been in the swing lifestyle since January this year. We met a couple (I'll call ... A: a very tricky situation. I agree with you that he is definitely cheating. It really depends on your ... | ||
| I like this guy. | 7/30/2011 | Michael Andrews |
| Q: During the January, i like this guy in my school, but all along i didn't approach him. And during ... A: You really have two choices - go after him or decide you will find someone else. If you do want to ... | ||
| First time swinging | 7/21/2011 | Michael Andrews |
| Q: My wife (37) and I (47) have been married 14 years and been true and faithful to one another the ... A: I think you should have a thorough discussion with your wife and get the mindsets of both of you ... | ||
| Screeching Halt | 7/18/2011 | Guycurious |
| Q: My wife and I have had a few soft swap encounters before which were all pretty successful. Last ... A: Your leaving when the other girl left was exactly the right move to make. Obviously the other guy ... | ||
| Our friend | 7/16/2011 | Guycurious |
| Q: My wife(22) and I(28), have been married for 2yrs(Military Police partners for 4). We have a closer ... A: Sounds to me like the groundwork has already been laid for such an event. Seeks like there is a ... | ||
| Curious and confused about swinging | 7/11/2011 | Michael Andrews |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have been together for six years and he is the only person I have ever had sex ... A: what you're expressing is not all that uncommon so take heart! I think you will find that once ... | ||
| how much sex and people | 6/30/2011 | Guycurious |
| Q: I ask this yesterday but other expert just says to leave husband. I dont want to leave. Do I have ... A: I'm afraid I agree with the others who have already given you their opinions. Leave this guy ... | ||
| Swinging with friends | 6/14/2011 | Michael Andrews |
| Q: We are going to Desire Resort for the first time with another couple whom we've known since college, ... A: I think you should talk to your wife along the lines of what to do if you are in a situation you are ... | ||
| bf keeps questioning | 6/11/2011 | Michael Andrews |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have been in a relationship for 2years. We both have been talking about starting ... A: Very sorry for the delay in answering - computer problems! Many people, especially men, get a thrill ... | ||
| no idea what i should do | 6/3/2011 | Michael Andrews |
| Q: I am hoping that you can help me with an issue i am facing. I (D) am 27 years old and so is my wife ... A: Hmmm... slightly tricky. You obviously made a simple mistake and it didn't go anywhere so that's ... | ||
| Blindsided by a Threesome last night | 6/2/2011 | Michael Andrews |
| Q: My new fiance was a swinger with his exwife. I on the other hand, had plain ole vanilla sex. That ... A: sorry for the delay in getting back to you. I'm sorry to hear about such a bad experience for you ... | ||
| First time swingers | 6/1/2011 | Guycurious |
| Q: Me and my boyfriend have talked about swinging,and are both curious, the thing is were not sure if ... A: First step, sit down and have an open and honest conversation with each other. Talk about your ... | ||
| To have a threesome or not? | 6/1/2011 | Guycurious |
| Q: My fiancee and I have been together for about 2 and a half years now. We both are very sexual people ... A: Based on what you've told me I think it may be detrimental to your relationship to involve a third ... | ||
| curiosity on swingimg | 5/17/2011 | Michael Andrews |
| Q: I'm 60 years old , lots of energy and for the first time i was involved in fucking a lady with her ... A: There are lots of couples out there looking for single guys. The two main options are swingers clubs ... | ||
| Swinging | 5/15/2011 | Guycurious |
| Q: My wife and I are both interested in swinging, but we are both very self conscious, and overweight. ... A: You could place an ad on a site such as Craigslist. Also, I believe www.swinglifestyle.com will let ... | ||
Michael Andrews
Top Expert on this page
Expertise
Couples sexuality, swinging, relationships
Experience
Speaker, author, publisher and workshop presenter in the areas of couples relationships and sexuality. Author of "How To Turn Your Partner Into a Swinger" at www.becomeaswinger.com
Publications
Author, "How To Turn Your Partner Into a Swinger", available at www.swingwithyourwife.com.
Consulting editor, "Real Intimacy: the 9 Habits of Great Relationships", available at http://www.amazon.com/Real-Intimacy-Habits-Relationships-ebook/dp/B005MNTE8O/ref=sr_1_sc_1?s=digital-text&ie=UTF8&qid=1321502809&sr=1-1-spell
Education/Credentials
MA (Hons), DipBus
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