Expert: Chim Hedo - 10/26/2008

Question
My wife and I fantasize about her taking two men at once.  She is turned on by it also, but we have not yet took the next step yet.  I am ready to take the step, but I want to do it with a complete stranger.  I was thinking about an online service or just a swingers club.  What do you think

Answer
Dear Mike..
 Yummy!!! One of my favorite fantasies!! But one question.  You say "you are ready to take it to the next step and with a complete stranger."  Is she ready? If she answers yes to that, then carry on!!
 Absolutely nothing wrong with a complete stranger as your choice, definitely adds to the fantasy.  
  I would probably lean towards a swingers club before an online service.  To me, an online service, sounds like you are willing to pay someone to be your third? Is that what you want?  
  There is a lot of lifestyle clubs that normally have a night where single men are permitted.  This might give you the chance to talk to others who can give a "reference" on the gentleman, because she definitely wants a "GENTLEMAN" for her first experience.  You want someone you can trust and who has her interests at heart.  This also gives her a variety of partners to choose from. Just don't get disinheartnened if she doesn't find someone the first time around.  Be choosy!!!  
 Once you have both found someone that you both agree on, make sure you discuss your limitations prior to the experience.  Is kissing allowed? Penetration? It really goes a long way to let your "date" no what is wanted and permitted as well.  
  Remember communication is the key in this venture, before, during and especially after the experience.
  It sounds deliciously exciting!!! I look forward to hearing how you "make out"!!
Chim