About Chim Hedo Expertise Questions regarding the lifestyle between couples. How to get started, communication, establishing rules. Where to meet people. Feelings, and how to deal with them. Soft vs full swinging. Bi-sexual women in the lifestyle. Lifestyle vacations. Clubs, events and house parties. How to dress and not to dress. Introducing "Vanilla" friends.
Experience Female 15 years in the lifestyle. Married 27.
Publications Currently writing a book on the lifestyle.
Education/Credentials human sexuality
Awards and Honors Host couple at many large Canadian Events. Started Ontario's largest on-line lifestyle site. Host and MC for many Ontario clubs.
Question I read that young couples should not do swinging because the emotions are too strong. That swinging should be for older couples only. is this true ?
Answer Hi Judy!
I would love to know your age!!
There is no "right or wrong" age to get into swinging. Yes, you are right, the emotions are very strong. I have seen 21 year olds that can handle those emotions, and I have seen 40 years old who could not.
It's not age that is a factor if you choose to get into the lifestyle. There are many other areas of your life you need to look deep into; your relationship with your significant other, your values, your sexual maturity level, your self-esteem, the list goes on and on.
Would I have started swinging when I was 21? NO. My partner and I had not totally explored each other yet. Neither us, or our relationship was mature enough to handle those emotions then. Had I not been part of a couple, and no what I no now, then yes definitely I would have been part of the lifestyle.
There is a few online groups for "younger swingers". I suggest if you fall into that category, you look there.
Good luck!
Chim
