Expert: Leesa - 12/19/2008

Question
I am trying to understand why I get so turned on watching my woman with another guy.
I am bisexual, and it turns me on so so bad to see her having any sort or type of sex with another guy. We always choose them as one...but when it's "their" turn to get it on...I can't get enough..It's on my mind very  very often all my waking hours. It's gotten to the point I'd ALMOST like her to have an affair...
Getting kinda scared..
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Answer
Hi there
There is nothing wrong with getting turned on by watching your wife have sex with someone else.
In fact that is exactly why Bryan and I swing.
It is about SEX and nothing more, and then the end result is about being together as a couple.
We are able to know the difference between fucking and making love.
We have sex, Or fuck others for our own pleasure and then we make love together.
Your thoughts on her having an affair is purely a fantasy. Can i suggest you may be at a point where you both are comfortable enough to have seperate room play. I know a couple that , she, meets the guys for coffee, gets to know what they are like in a few hours, and then goes to a motel and has sex with them. She simply then leaves , no phone numbers, no contact with them, and then goes home and has the best sex ever with her hubby. That is how they live out their affair fantasy.
It works for them, but i dont think it would work for everyone.
Keep doing what you are doing, and communicate with your wife. Watching you wife being pleasured is obviously a real turn on for you, and you are not doing anything wrong , nor is she, whilst you share these feelings together.
Leesa