Expert: Analisa - 3/18/2008

Question
QUESTION: I AM INTERESTED IN THE SWINGER LIFESTYLE BUT DON'T KNOW HOW TO GET STARTED? I HAVE EXPERIMENTED WITH A FRIEND AND SOME OF HIS FRIENDS IN THREESOMES AND FOURSOMES WITH ME BEING THE ONLY FEMALE,AND I ENJOYED IT VERY MUCH, BUT HE HAS IS OWN LITTLE GROUP OF FRIENDS THAT HE IS INVOLVED WITH . I LIKE BEING INVOLVED WITH HIS GROUP BUT WOULD LIKE TO KNOW HOW TO GET MY OWN GROUP STARTED OR MAYBE IF THERE WAS A CLUB THAT I COULD JOIN?

ANSWER: TATA,

Just a couple of quick questions for you:

Are you over 18?
Are you in a relationship with someone now?
Are you remotely bi-curious or just really enjoy being the only female with a group of guys?
What part of the country are you located in (West Coast, Northwest, Midwest, South . . .)?

These questions must sound strange but they will help me to direct you to the best resources to meet your interests.

I look forward to reading your reponses,
Analisa

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QUESTION: THIS IS A FOLLOW UP TO MY QUESTION. YES I AM OVER 18; YES I DO ENJOY BEING THE ONLY FEMALE, BUT I AM ALSO LIKE TO TRY THREESOMES WITH FEMALES; YES I AM IN A RELATIONSHIP; AND FINALLY I LIVE IN DALLAS, TEXAS. I INTRODUCED TO THIS LIFESTYLE BY A FORMER BOYFRIEND AND I ENJOYED IT, BUT WE ARE NO LONGER TOGETHER. I DON'T KNOW OF ANY OTHER PEOPLE INTERESTED OUTSIDE OF THE PEOPLE THAT HE KNOWS. I DON' HAVE A PROBLEM WITH THEM; I JUST WOULD LIKE TO HAVE A DIFFERENT GROUP.

Answer
TATA,

Ok, here are your options (of which there are MANY):

1.You can build a profile online with any one of MILLIONS of online swinger communities (AdultFriendFinder.com, Club-swing.com or our personal (Midwest) fave Clubforeplay.com). Many of these are free to initially build your profile but, charge a subscription fee to post on chat boards or see pictures on people's profiles.

2. You can go the NASCA (National Association of Swing Clubs of America) website and locate a local swinger's club to meet new people.

I would strongly recommend doing the online thing first, then you can get to know folks before you jump in. Also see pictures of what they look like before they show up at your door.

One other suggestion, we have learned over the years to meet someone new or a new couple at a restaurant for dinner or drinks. It's safe, it's public and you get to see what they REALLY look like (bad news is there are people who have what we call 20/200 pictures on their profiles, picture was taken 20 years or 200 lbs. ago). This gives you a way out without having them at your home (& you have to find a way to get them to leave) or you are at their home (& trying to find a way out). Also you're not meeting at a hotel room someone has forked out cash for & now is pissed cause nothing is gonna happen.

Also remember in the swinging world you are a HOT commodity, you are a single female who is bi-curious. That is what EVERYONE in the swinging world is looking for. Also through the online communities you can meet single men who are willing to hook-up and do the group thing with you also.

Let me know if you have any further questions.

Good Luck,
Analisa