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Experience Over 10 years in the Lifestyle, numerous events & encounters (some pleasant & enjoyable and others that were less than)
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Expert: Analisa Date: 3/29/2008 Subject: To please my swinging BF
Question I tired swinging with my live in boy friend a year ago. I didn't like being with woman and some men were not my style but my bf loved it as forplay and sometimes i did too.. I moved out a year ago across the country back west where im from becuase he got turned off to me becuase i didnt want to swing like when i first met him..it was all so new, even though i did love some men..My question is we are still in love, he is coming to visit me...I want to please him but not get so upset by swinging. Id like to try again but how can i please him and be true to myself? I felt upset that he didnt want me first, he said all of it was for me & i didnt understand where he was coming from..I need sex so bad and enjoy him more than anyone ever...help?
Answer Deva,
If swinging is not for you then you should not do it just to please someone else. The most important person to be honest with is yourself. If he is the right one for you he will appreciate you all the more for your honesty. Don't let ANYONE pressure you into doing something you don't want to do.
