Expert: Analisa - 4/8/2008

Question
Hi,
My girlfriend and I have a very good sexual relationship. We are very willingly and happily monogamous and we love each other. He have been going out for 2 years. However... we're both sex adventures and always try new things at least once.
We have decided we want to have a foursome with another couple (strangers rather than friends). So technically, we don't want to be swingers. We want to do this all in the same room, swapping every now and then and perhaps all 4 at the same time. We only want to do this once for curiosity and fun.
We have discussed that no matter the experience, we will remain a monogamous couple after that. It's just about trying something new.
Yet, I still have a worry... what if it ruins our relationship? I mean this in the sense that, if it's good, she may want to do it again... and again. I know an experience like this could even strengthen our relationship but there's always doubt... cause this is so new. The thought of her fantasizing about other guys, wanting another foursome makes me sick. I don't want to share her more than once.
She's had a FFM threesome with an ex-boyfriend and I have masturbated to the idea of her having sex with another guy. This is good in the sense that jealousy is not a problem.
I'm just so afraid of the aftermath: perhaps her losing interest in the one-on-one action, or worse, losing our monogamy... how should I deal with this (mentally)?
Regards,
Mr. Worried

Answer
Edgar,

Just a heads up what you are talking about is swinging but, it doesn't sound like you are ready for this. It sounds like the two of you have some more talking to do. A LOT of talking to do, actually.

I would suggest sitting down with your significant other & talk all the way through EVERY one of your concerns BEFORE going forward with any further plans. The LifeStyle is NOT for everyone and should not be entered into lightly and definitely not with the worries you have.

Hope this helps, let me know if you have any further questions,
Analisa