Expert: Analisa - 4/9/2008

Question
QUESTION:      Hi, My wife and I are are having trouble starting this hobby we want. Tried craigs list, tried adultfriendfinder, tried couplefishing. We live in Cebu Philippines and we want another bisex couple as a hobby. even willing to hire a couple on salary. Any recommendations?

ANSWER: Mark,

While the Subject line of your email "Orgy Lifestyle" is out of our realm of experience your question is not.

We do not have experience outside of the U.S. but would recommend refraining from calling swinging or other couples, your "hobby". Also while it may be perfectly legal to pay someone for sex in P.I. it is not legal in the U.S. The lack of response you are getting is possibly from people thinking you are the police and trying to entrap them.

Now for suggestions.
1. Have you thought about traveling to the U.S. and attending a Swing Club's party?
2. We just tried this Google search and came up with multiple results: "Swing clubs in the philippines" (try this search with the quotes before & after
3. Also another website you might try is swappernet.com

Hope this helps.

Let me know if you have any other questions,
Analisa

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QUESTION: Thanks Analisa, swing clubs in the philippines turned up just commercial ads. There is a swing club in Manila, I know about, but swing clubs I don't think are bi friendly. I never heard of swappernet.com but it appears to be U.S. only. It is sad that in the U.S. the police have nothing better to do than be involved in sexual entrapment. I think they are too busy in the underage entrapment to be bothered with adults. Being that everybody loves sex, I know there will eventually be response. I'll keep working on different approaches. Is there a reason why you dislike the word hobby as pertains to sex with other couples?

Mark

Answer
Mark,

Are you using Google for your search engine, that may explain the differences in our search results. LifeStyleLounge.com has a listing for Manila. Also try these URLs: http://www.clubsandparties.com/locations/philippines.html
http://www.connectexpress.com/~izzer/internationalclubs.html#philippines

Also if you go to the NASCA website they have an international page.

As far as the whole bi conversation it is like any other, take it slowly see what you can find.

One last suggestion would be to check out the local swing clubs & then maybe spend that money on building up your own swing club that is bi friendly. Make certain you list it with all the websites you searched that way other like minded people can find you.

As far as the word "hobby" is concerned most people do not want to be considered as a hobby, just there until you lose interest. They want to be considered for themselves, as people and individuals, living, breathing and feeling. Hobby is disassociative and makes them sound like objects. For me & my husband this isn't a hobby it is a LifeStyle and appropriately called that here in the states.

Hope this helps.

Let me know if you have any other questions,
Analisa