AboutAnalisa Expertise Questions related to Swinging i.e. Why did you choose to become a swinger, He/She wants
to but I have doubts, How to begin/get started, What is the purpose of swinging, Why
would you become a swinger, Should we/shouldn't we, Rules (Are/Aren't they needed,
What should they be, What should be non-negotiable, What can be compromised, What to
do if rules are ignored or broken), House vs. private parties, Resources to locate other
swingers, What does it mean to take one for the team
Questions we can't answer: Any alternative sexual questions other than swinging, i.e.
Bestiality, Gang Banging, anything to do with minors, B/D or S&M, toilet games, etc. We also don't feel proficient in answering in depth relationship questions, we are not marriage/relationship counselors, if we receive a question that falls into that category we will refer you to seek professional help.
Experience Over 10 years in the Lifestyle, numerous events & encounters (some pleasant & enjoyable and others that were less than)
Organizations NASCA, Good Vibrations, C4P
Education/Credentials Both of us are college educated professionals.
Question QUESTION: Hello,
Got a question.
Lets say that a married woman is interested in you sexually but you know that it is wrong. However you are willing to have sex with her under the following conditions:
1. There is agreement and consent with her husband and her
2. She does not have ulterior motives and turns the story around to get you in trouble.
What are nice ways or ways of acknowledging this in a non offensive and descent way
ANSWER: H Mahabir,
Couple questions in return.
1. Are you married or in a committed relationship?
2. Are you experienced in this situation?
Other than that I think you have the right idea of making certain her husband knows & consents to the idea. If you have met him & he consents then she can't turn ANYthing around. Especially, if he likes to watch.
As far as acknowledging this, I would strongly suggest, honesty. Tell her while you are very flattered & interested, you don't condone cheating & will ONLY agree if you meet her husband first & get his consent.
Hope this helps.
Analisa
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QUESTION: Analisa,
Thanks for the answer.
1. I am not married or in a committed relationship. I am actually an inexperienced male sexually.
2. No i am not
I have experienced situations where married women made sexual gestures at me. Even though i was interested in knew it would cause problems and so i avoided any contact for safety.
Answer H Mahabir,
I would say trust your gut, if you feel you might get caught up in some crazy drama then RUN the other direction.
However, if you tell her while you are very flattered & interested, you don't condone cheating & will ONLY agree if you meet her husband first & get his consent, and you do meet him & it all works out, then congratulations.
