Adult Swinging/finding a third for a threesome

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Expert: Analisa - 5/20/2008


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Hey Analisa,

My girlfriend and I want to bring another woman into our bedroom, but we don't know where to begin. We talked about what can happen, may happen, and can't happen, but finding a woman seems to be the biggest hurdle. Do you have any suggestions?

Oh, and if it helps any, we live in Santa Barbara, Ca.

Thanks!


Best regards,
Jay

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Jay,

I have a couple of suggestions:
1. Check out a LifeStyle website (adultfriendfinders.com, swappernet.com or my personal favorite clubforeplay.com)
2. Does Santa Barbara have a FREE PRESS newspaper? Usually in the back they have classifieds, these might help you in your search.

I do want to warn you to be very patient. You are starting a search for the most elusive playmates ever. In the LifeStyle, single bi-females are referred to as the Easter Bunny or Santa Claus. We've all heard of them but has anyone seen one. (I must admit to chuckling a bit as I type this as I initially started out this way but am since married)

Hope this helps.

Good Luck,
Analisa

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Over 10 years in the Lifestyle, numerous events & encounters (some pleasant & enjoyable and others that were less than)

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NASCA, Good Vibrations, C4P

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