AboutAnalisa Expertise Questions related to Swinging i.e. Why did you choose to become a swinger, He/She wants
to but I have doubts, How to begin/get started, What is the purpose of swinging, Why
would you become a swinger, Should we/shouldn't we, Rules (Are/Aren't they needed,
What should they be, What should be non-negotiable, What can be compromised, What to
do if rules are ignored or broken), House vs. private parties, Resources to locate other
swingers, What does it mean to take one for the team
Questions we can't answer: Any alternative sexual questions other than swinging, i.e.
Bestiality, Gang Banging, anything to do with minors, B/D or S&M, toilet games, etc. We also don't feel proficient in answering in depth relationship questions, we are not marriage/relationship counselors, if we receive a question that falls into that category we will refer you to seek professional help.
Experience Over 10 years in the Lifestyle, numerous events & encounters (some pleasant & enjoyable and others that were less than)
Organizations NASCA, Good Vibrations, C4P
Education/Credentials Both of us are college educated professionals.
Question My husband and I have talked about swinging for several years. we have talked about the good and the bad.
I believe we are ready to check out the scene. I want to surprise him by finding a place and setting it up, but I don't even know how to begin.
We live in So Cal.
Thanks for your help
Answer Karen,
I would suggest checking into an online swinger site first. This way you can check out all the local people and find out about your local clubs too. There are several I can recommend but I will admit my personal favorite is clubforeplay.com. They have a user friendly site and offer membership as low as 9.99 a month (here is a referral # for you to use: 13442). There you can see pictures of the folks attending the local clubs, read their profiles, email and chat with them before having to meet face to face. This site has been described as the "Playboy" (read as classy) site for swingers. They also host Meet & Greets all over the country, where people go and meet each other (no other expectations).
Another way to locate a local club would be through the NASCA (North American Swingers Club Association), they have listing for many (though not all) clubs. To list a club on their website the club owners have to buy a membership first.
Hope this helps, let me know if you have any further questions.
Analisa
