AboutAnalisa Expertise Questions related to Swinging i.e. Why did you choose to become a swinger, He/She wants
to but I have doubts, How to begin/get started, What is the purpose of swinging, Why
would you become a swinger, Should we/shouldn't we, Rules (Are/Aren't they needed,
What should they be, What should be non-negotiable, What can be compromised, What to
do if rules are ignored or broken), House vs. private parties, Resources to locate other
swingers, What does it mean to take one for the team
Questions we can't answer: Any alternative sexual questions other than swinging, i.e.
Bestiality, Gang Banging, anything to do with minors, B/D or S&M, toilet games, etc. We also don't feel proficient in answering in depth relationship questions, we are not marriage/relationship counselors, if we receive a question that falls into that category we will refer you to seek professional help.
Experience Over 10 years in the Lifestyle, numerous events & encounters (some pleasant & enjoyable and others that were less than)
Organizations NASCA, Good Vibrations, C4P
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Hatachi writes on 2008-07-07 10:21:04
Just a brief followup from a male perspective.
Guys enjoy variety, and like to be with different types of women. If he looks at women who look different from you, it doesn't at all mean that he's unhappy with you in any way. Guys also feel excited being with a new girl, so its sometimes difficult not to concentrate on that girl, since we know we can be with our own partner anytime, but this may be our only chance with the other girl.
As far as things like deep throating: My partner has a small mouth and can only suck shallowly. Its always exciting for me when a girl can deep throat me and give me a great blowjob. That said, it would never even occur to me to leave my partner for one of those other women, or even to wish she could do it differently. The great thing about swinging is that you can try a variety of things while still being committed to the person that you love.
While I can't comment on your specific relationship, and I know you can't really help your feelings, I just don't think that anything you said implies he doesn't love you or that he likes other women better than you.
