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This isn't really specifically about swinging, but it is the closest subject I could find. My husband and I want to have a threesome, which was my idea because I've never been with a woman and I'm curious, but he wants me to pick the girl. While I've never been shy on the subject of sex, I am a bit shy when it comes to approaching people. I was never even able to tell a guy I liked him when I was younger, even if I was good friends with him. How can I approach a woman with the idea of joining my husband and I in bed without offending her? I really don't like the idea of putting out a personal ad, I'd rather approach someone in person.
Janelle,
I would suggest registering with a "swingers" website as either a couple who are willing for "soft-swap girl/girl" only or you can register as a single female looking for another female and explain what is going on with the two of you.
I would suggest clubforeplay.com and you can use this referral # 13442. They have free memberships so you can browse around, find someone local to you or look for someone you might meet if you travel.
There is less risk than trying to meet one on one this way.
Hope this helps,
Analisa
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