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Experience Over 10 years in the Lifestyle, numerous events & encounters (some pleasant & enjoyable and others that were less than)
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Question I am very secure with myself and my relationship with my wife which is a monogamist heterosexual one. My thing is I get very turned on by the thought of my wife being in some type of way some sexual position with another man. we are not swingers, never been in a threesome, both of us are attractive, me 38 she 27. We have no problem in the bedroom, truly no problem with my size, she discribe me as pretty large. From my understanding she dont have this type fantacy, but we have had sex and I sort of talk up a fantacy of her and another guy( cheating) and she and I have the biggest ogasms. My problem is that I really would like to try somithing like this oneday, but I dont want to give her the idea like I dont love her, because I would let her do somthing with another man. I often tell her that above anything else, its not the sex, why I love her so much, its eveything else that she is about. Im not concern about our relationship taking a bad turn because its truly secure. Im not secretly trying seek a threesome with another woman, I just think we could take our sex to another level and experience some awsome times together. My love for her, our marriage, the sex and the way she say it, she love DICK. As far as I know she have not any other sex with anyone else, since we've been married for four years and truthfully I have no other reason to not to believe that. I want us to try it, but I want her to know that I truly love her, Im just sort of a little freakish I guess, what do you think? I have no homosexual desires and I think my wife will like to experience different dick as she call it.
Answer So Marcus,
What are you asking here, I don't really see a question per-se?
From your statement, I get that everything between the two of you is good and you are both committed to your relationship and each other.
I can suggest you talk openly & honestly with her about your interest in seeing her with another man. There are plenty of clean, honest & respectful single guys out in the swinging world. I would strongly suggest and experienced swinger instead of 'some guy' you two might know as an experienced swinger will show up and provide EXACTLY what you are looking for without any agenda, drama or future contact if that is your request.
