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Expert: Analisa Date: 6/20/2008 Subject: My wife having sex with another man
Question QUESTION: We are a young couple and me and my wife are planning to go to a swinger's party. My wife seems pretty excited by the idea, though at first she hesitated in telling me and said she would no way be with a guy. But later when i asked her if she would like it if another man plays with her, she got very excited and now she doesnt want to miss it.
I would like to see her reaction and maoning when a guy enters her. She said she would like a longer dick than mine.
My questions:
1. I would feel bad if i am not able to give her as good pleasure as the guy with the longer dick? Though my dick size is also about 4.5 - 5 inches, she feels a longer one would satisfy her more. Should i go ahead with it ( I want to but am scared)
2. I see from these sites that a man wanting to see his wife getting pleasure from another man is quite common - I just want to know why is that, whats the philosophy behind that and is it normal?
3. I also may consider a man entering my backside (though i havent done it before), but i cant do it infront of her, should i ask her about this?
I will be most happy and thankful to get your reply urgently as the party is just 3 days from now.
Thanking you
ANSWER: Janice,
BEFORE you go to this party, you & your wife need to talk . . . about EVERYTHING; Your fears, your frustration, your desire to have sex with another man. Get answers to ALL of your questions BEFORE you two head to this party. Be very honest with her and ask for the same in return.
As far as your feelings being "normal"? Who defines what "normal" is? Normal for me maybe abnormal for someone else. I think it is odd to put concrete statues all over my yard or to put knick-knacks on every level surface in my house. But there are thousands of people who find this "normal". I find it insane to spend time subjecting my skin to potentially cancer causing substances but there are millions of people who lay out in the sun & go to tanning beds. So who is "normal"? I checked with merriam-webster online dictionary as I was answering this question, there are 6 different definitions of the word - normal. My personal two favorites are:
#3: occurring naturally <normal immunity>
#4 a: of, relating to, or characterized by average intelligence or development b: free from mental disorder : sane
Hope this helps & let me know if you need further assistance.
Good Luck with that talk,
Analisa
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QUESTION: Firtly, Thank you for such a propmt reply.
Ya you are right about talking it with her, I have been thinking of creating a questionaire for her and myself.:)
Anyway 2 more things:
1. Is it possible that she is after a long dick ( i measure mine again and its about 7 inches) enters her she wont find me satisfying.. What i mean is that is it natural for a woman to not find it satisfying after only doing it once?
2. How long a dick normally is a good size (just so that i dont get an inferiority complex)
Lastly, Q.2 from the earlier questions: What is the psyche behind men wanting to see their wives with another man?
Answer Answer to #1 - Yes, it is absolutely possible but then anything is possible. I can't say she would be the best person to ask.
Answer to #2 - Please refer to the definitions of normal previously sent. Normal is by each persons definition different (that is why I pointed out there are SIX different definitions to the word 'normal'.
Answer to Q2 - I am not qualified to answer questions of psyche. All I can say is in my personal experience, my husband finds it "hot". He says its like watching the hottest porn ever & going home & having sex with the star.
Lastly, I would strongly recommend that both of you create a questionnaire for the other rather than one person for both of you.
