Expert: Analisa - 8/6/2008

Question
I recently returned from a 4 day trip out of town. When me and my girlfriend
became intimate and had sex the night i returned, well her vagina was
extremely loose. In the past I noticed the the tightness does fluctuate and she
said that it was due to her birth control. But this time was drastically
different. At first I thought that my penis went soft on me but when i pulled it
out it was rock hard. It was soo loose that it kept slipping out and I could not
finish due to lack of stimulation. The only time it ever felt close to being this  
loose was when we went to a swingers party and she had sex with a guy who
was much larger than me. Im sorry but I just have a hard time believing that
she became this loose from birth control, when in the last year its never been
close to being this bad. Im afraid our swing lifestyle may have caused her to
feel too comfortable and maybe she slept with another guy thinking it was no
big deal since I have let her do it in from of me. Also, two days before I came
home she spent the day walking around an amusement park and she said that
maybe this is why it was soo bad. I thought walking did the opposite. Should
I be concerned?

Answer
James,

I think you should be concerned that you are asking me this question instead of her. You should be having this conversation with her.

This really has nothing to do with swinging it is about your relationship & whether or not you trust her.

Physically women's bodies fluctuate constantly. No two women are the same, they may experience similar things but, that is not something you can predict. So she could very well be experiencing this from a day of extended walking.

I would STRONGLY suggest you sit down & talk with her about this & express your fears and concerns.

I am more concerned that you two are in the LifeStyle and you are expressing this level of distrust. Have you two clearly gone over the ground rules? Do you have clear ground rules?

Hope this helps,
Analisa