Adult Swinging/Im new to this....

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Expert: Analisa - 8/15/2008


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I wanted to ask...my girl friend have been together for a bout 3 months now and it has came up twice about swinging and by her attitude I really think and feel she wants to try it...I can't say it doesn't interrests me but I don't know what to do because I told her I don't know if I can handle seeing or knowing she is doing another guy and being my girlfriend at the same time...I am falling in love with this girl and I want to make her happy and as I said I am a bit curious about it too,but to be honest I am still a bit scared because it is such a big step for me to take........ what would be some good suggestions please......????

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Thomas,

First, you two need to talk, open, honest. Lay all your concerns on the table.

Second, you two need to develop your relationship, your trust and your commitment to each other & your relationship BEFORE you start bringing other people into it.

And last but definitely not least, do NOTHING you are not totally comfortable with.

The swinging lifestyle is not one to be entered with fear, worry or ANY insecurity AT ALL. It is best to wait until you two have a sound relationship built on a solid foundation before jumping into this.

Hope this helps,
Analisa  

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