Expert: Analisa - 8/10/2008

Question
Hi.  I'm a young single woman (21 years old), interested in the swinging
lifestyle.  I also happen to be a virgin, and have never been in any kind of
sexual relationship before.  On the inside I'm a very sexual person, but I've
always been shy and overweight, and have never known how to get involved
with anyone.

I've lost a lot of weight, and am much more confident now than I ever have
been, but dating still doesn't appeal to me.  When guys hit on me, I feel good
about it and get excited but I ultimately pull away because of my disinterest
in the "game."  Dating just seems like such an emotional battle, when sex
should be much more freeform and freeing.  The swinging lifestyle appeals to
me because it seems to hold the openness I so desperately want. There is an
on-premise club in my area, which I've been planning to visit, but not
knowing what I'm getting into, I'm nervous.

The idea of losing my virginity to multiple people is very appealing to me, as
the experience could be as intimate and beautiful as doing it with a long-
term boyfriend (or girlfriend), but it wouldn't involve all of the commitment,
awkwardness, and waiting required to built a real relationship.  It's not that I
don't ever want to have a relationship, it's that I want to be a sexually savvy
and experienced woman before stepping into the dating world.  Swingers
seem like the right sort of people to "initiate" me.  They seem like they would
know how to do it right, how to make me comfortable, and how to make it a
memorable amazing experience.  They also seem like the sort to appreciate
the chance to participate in that sort of event.. a mass deflowering.

Of course, dreaming up this fantasy of my perfect deflowering has built in
problems.  There could be all kinds of roadblocks I'm just not foreseeing.  So
my questions are:

Are my assumptions about swingers correct?  

Would swingers have interest in "helping me out"?

How do I go about making this fantasy a reality?

Answer
Franka,

To begin with let me congratulate you on your attitude. Second, prior to answering your question I want to double check that you are of legal age. And finally please remember assumptions are just that assumptions.

As soon as I get your verification on your age then I will proceed to answer your two answerable questions.

Analisa