Expert: Chim Hedo - 1/17/2009

Question
O.K. here goes...my fiance lied to me about hanging out with another girl.  I don't know if they had sex but I'm pretty sure it makes no sense for them to lie about everything if they hadn't.  In any case, I have always had a fantasy about more than one partner and I figure what the hell at this point our relationship is on the rocks.  We have always had a spectacular sexionship so I thought this could be fun.  He was feeding me bull poop about he might feel guilty about it.  Anyway, am I starting in on this life style on the wrong foot?  I really do want to try it.  Also I'm a desease phobic person, how do we figure out who to have sex with?  Should I allow him to use penetration with her if there's another woman involved.  He told me he wouldn't if I didn't want that but he's setting boundries up for failing maybe because he did admit that he would want to know what it was like to penetrate the other person.

Holly Cow!  Seems so thrilling but is it a mistake with someone I know lies?

Answer
Hi Kim!
  YES!!! You are definatley starting out on the wrong foot, with both feet!!! Trust has to be there before you can enter the lifestyle, and you are entering for all the wrong reasons.  Mend your relatioinship first.  You are doomed for a split if you go in as blind as you are.  Go back to your spectacular sexionship.... work on that for a while, build some trust!!!
Good luck,
Chim