AboutAnalisa Expertise Questions related to Swinging i.e. Why did you choose to become a swinger, He/She wants
to but I have doubts, How to begin/get started, What is the purpose of swinging, Why
would you become a swinger, Should we/shouldn't we, Rules (Are/Aren't they needed,
What should they be, What should be non-negotiable, What can be compromised, What to
do if rules are ignored or broken), House vs. private parties, Resources to locate other
swingers, What does it mean to take one for the team
Questions we can't answer: Any alternative sexual questions other than swinging, i.e.
Bestiality, Gang Banging, anything to do with minors, B/D or S&M, toilet games, etc. We also don't feel proficient in answering in depth relationship questions, we are not marriage/relationship counselors, if we receive a question that falls into that category we will refer you to seek professional help.
Experience Over 10 years in the Lifestyle, numerous events & encounters (some pleasant & enjoyable and others that were less than)
Organizations NASCA, Good Vibrations, C4P
Education/Credentials Both of us are college educated professionals.
Question QUESTION: My husband and I have been wanting to have a threesome with another woman. I'm not exactly sure what swinging is but I'm hoping it's in some way related to what I have a question about. My husband and I have had a threesome before with a friend of mine that I no longer speak to because of unrelated reasons. But my question is how would we go about finding a woman who would want to do this with us? Thank you for your time.
ANSWER: Whit,
My best recommendation for the two of you is to join one of my favorite sites for swingers (clubforeplay.com referral #13442) and build a profile with all your preferences and then search the profiles around you (based on your zip code) for a single bi-female. This way the person you get at knows there are rules in place and understands what is expected of her.
You will be able to see her profile, any pictures she has posted of herself, chat with her in advance, ask her any questions you might have and advise her in advance of your ground rules.
Hope this helps,
Analisa
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QUESTION: I just have one more quick question. Even though my husband and I have brought someone else into our bedroom before I still worry that it will cause problems in our relationship even though it's something both of us want to do. Any tips or suggestions on how to keep something like this from ruining our relationship and only help us become closer?
Answer Whit,
THe only thing I can tell you is to work through any issues BEFORE bringing someone else in. Once you have brought someone else in keep the communication between VERY honest, constant and open.
The LifeStyle will bring up any/all issues you two have (even ones you are not aware of) so your commitment to your marriage succeeding is tantamount to everything else. Just keep in mind who the most important person is in your life and you should be okay.
I can recommend a great book & it comes in CD format for those who are not big into reading (my husband is a prime example) it is called "Fall in Love, Stay in Love" and gives GREAT information.
