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My wife was cheating on me and she shared this with me. When we have sex I fantasize about her lover and us having a mfm experience and she enjoys it and has multiple orgasm. i enjoy this too while we are making love and love to hear her talk about it. However post orgasm I feel angry about the whole thing and upset but after a couple of days I am ready for this again. I am keen to live our fantasy do a soft swing to see how it goes. I have shared this with my wife who feels I may not be able to handle this even if she is willing.
Please advice if this feeling of depression and anger post sex is normal and do you feel I should go ahead with the lifestyle in a soft swap format.
Tom,
I strongly urge you to get counseling about your feelings of betrayal and the whole experience of finding out that your wife was cheating on you.
I also strongly urge you to NOT get involved in the Lifestyle until this situation is resolved.
Hope this helps,
Analisa
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Questions related to Swinging i.e. Why did you choose to become a swinger, He/She wants to but I have doubts, How to begin/get started, What is the purpose of swinging, Why would you become a swinger, Should we/shouldn't we, Rules (Are/Aren't they needed, What should they be, What should be non-negotiable, What can be compromised, What to do if rules are ignored or broken), House vs. private parties, Resources to locate other swingers, What does it mean to take one for the team Questions we can't answer: Any alternative sexual questions other than swinging, i.e. Bestiality, Gang Banging, anything to do with minors, B/D or S&M, toilet games, etc. We also don't feel proficient in answering in depth relationship questions, we are not marriage/relationship counselors, if we receive a question that falls into that category we will refer you to seek professional help.
Experience
Over 10 years in the Lifestyle, numerous events & encounters (some pleasant & enjoyable and others that were less than)
Organizations
NASCA, Good Vibrations, C4P
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Both of us are college educated professionals.
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