Expert: Analisa - 2/10/2009

Question
Hi we are 39 and 43 been married for eight years both very sexual love movies fantasies etc.We have always fantasised about swinging she is bi and recently after dinner with a couple (who are friends) ended up seducing the wife whilst the husband and i went to fetch ice a few weeks later she initiated a bit of softswinging with the same couple and the next morning proclaimed that it was wrong and that we should go to church yet a mere two weeks later she again initiated interaction this time saying that she didnt really want to.
What i am confused about is that we both really get turned on by it she is obviosly battling with guilt how do you suggest we can get past this without pressurising her?
Thanks

Answer
Charles,

I suggest you two sit down and discuss her feelings of guilt and her religious leanings.

This is a bit beyond my scope, since both my husband & I are spiritual people we chose not to subscribe to organized religion and all the guilt baggage they chose to peddle.

Again, I strongly suggest the two of you sit down and discuss this openly, honestly and with no blaming or pre-judging.

Hope this helps,
Analisa