Expert: Analisa - 2/4/2009

Question
I would like to know your views on the following:
1. Why do so many women on swinger sites state "cut" males only (the innuendo that "uncut" is bad). Are they simply ignorant?
2. If safe sex is "condoms only" then why do so many women perform felatio on males without condoms? Do they not know that there is also a risk factor orally?
3. So many couples put "age limitations" on their choices for swinging partners; yet seem to overlook "body types" - implying that younger is more desirable than older; yet anyone with a half-brain can see profile photos of 20-35 year olds in horrible body shape; yet similar photos of 45-60 years old often times appear to be in great shape. So how do you answer for those who put age limitation restrictions?
4. Why are there so many single guys attending swinger clubs? Can't they find enough bar flies, or prostitutes any more?
5. Which leads to the question, "why" are so many females within a couple desirious of taking on single men only, while their husband watches?
6. Could it be that many male husbands can simply no longer perform, and they allow their lady to receive her pleasure?
7. Why is it that most every website shows photos on the 'home page' of young, attractive women, while ignoring older ladies?
8. Swinging lately has become a free-for-all environment, don't you think? What with bi-males, AAhz parties, orgies, masturbation clubs, cum-swallowing parties, gang-bangs, fuckathons, women wanting 100 men in succession, and on and on it goes. Didn't swinging involve couples, as in couples to couples originally?
9. Why in the alternative lifestyle, do women need all sorts of toys, machines; and men now want silicone dolls?
10. Don't you think that with all these nuances the lifestyle is actually diminishing in terms of value of pleasure, by now seeking diversification of every imaginable means?

Let's sort this all out: MFMF - we got it, know what it means; now there is MMFF, FFM, MMF, Bi-sexual, bi-curious, bi-maybe, bi-sometimes, bi-depends, bi-try, bi not required, but accepted, and the taboos with various adjectives, ranging from golden showers, to scat; kids, first-borns, mother-in-laws, animals, birds, incest, sharking, and an endless list.

It would seem the lifestyle has taken on a new dimension of terminology, choices, attitudes, and is becomming diluted and to some, boring - as a result of having to qualify or jump through so many hoops, that some now figure it isn't even worth the effort, and now go into an entirely different sexual venue.
And what is that new venue? Inquiring minds want to know.

Sunny

Answer
Sunny,

I'm not really sure what you're question is here, what exactly are you wanting to know and need my expertise to answer for you? or did you just need to vent?

Several of these questions seem really more geared toward LS website forums. Also maybe your selection of websites are what is limiting your experiences. My husband & I currently prefer a website called clubforeplay.com and they are geared to all ages & body types. They even have a photo contest for "Over 40s".

Maybe all of this is better termed alternative lifestyle. Think less of it as jumping through hoops and simply more of tolerance for different people's preferences. The great part is if you don't like what they do, you don't have to participate. It's called 'No means, No!', the cardinal rule of the Lifestyle.

I hope this helps,
Analisa