Expert: Chim Hedo - 4/9/2009

Question
Hi,

I have been married for 19 years. I am 47 and my wife is 51. In the past, my wife has admitted that she had sex with 5 woman in her 20's. Ever since she told me this, I have not been able to get out of mind about doing a threesome with her. I want to so bad to have sex with her and another woman. How can I make this happend? Do I need to find the person and have that person seduce her. Also, I have a recurring fantasy about my wife having sex with other men. In the fantasy, my wife is at club and some guy picks her up, takes her to a private area of the club and screws her like crazy. How can I make this happen as well?

Answer
Hi Roger!
  You really can't make any of this happen, but you can certainly get the wheels in motion. Have you asked her what situation brought her to being with the 5 other women?  How she felt?   You need to sit down and talk with her. Really talk.  Do you discuss your fantasies with your wife?  I think you really need to open up the lines of communication with your wife.  A good way to start for you both to make a sexual wish list, then compare notes, she may be hiding the same desires as you.  Do you watch porn together? Girl on girl scenes can be a good way to start the ball rolling with a conversation on how it makes you feel.  You have been together for 19 years, I don't think she is going to feel any different towards  you if you approach her with your fantasies, she is your best friend.
Chim