Expert: Analisa - 4/23/2009

Question
Analisa,

Thanks for taking my question, I really appreciate it. My wife and I have been talking about bringing another man into our bedroom for a threesome for a while now. We both agree that it would be incredibly exciting. But we have some questions. We are both drug and disease free and want a partner that is the same. We want someone that will have "fun" with us, but respect us at the same time. With that said, what is the best way to go about finding a partner? Bars, clubs, online, sex clubs, etc? We have never done anything like this before, so I know we will both be very nervous, what are some good ways to "break the ice"? Also, we want to stay involved with eachother through the encounter. Are there any certain positions that you would recomend to keep all three of us involved with eachother? Thanks again for you advice!

Answer
Josh,

First, we would recommend you & your wife be very clear with each other and set some ground rules, these need to include a safe word, something that if either of you is uncomfortable or unhappy about how things are progressing, when this word is said, EVERYTHING stops, you both get up and LEAVE, no questions asked, because the number one most important thing to remember in all of this is that your relationship is what you two treasure and value MOST.

Then, we would suggest you find a hotel rather than your bedroom or your home. NO-ONE is 100% safe and you don't want to bring a stranger back to your home, your refuge, your place of safety.

Next, to meet this person we would recommend a swinger site. There are several out there swappernet.com, adultfriendfinder.com, swinger.com, club-swing.com, etc. but we personally recommend one called clubforeplay.com (you can tell them you were referred by member #13442) we have found this site to be the "Playboy" of swinger sites and we personally know the founder/owner and administrator and he works hard to keep this upscale, classy and keep the "creepy/pervy" people off the site. This way you can review the single guys who fit what you are looking for and if you wish to travel to them or have them travel to you. You can email, swap pictures, chat, get to know them etc. all before the big night. The other good thing about this site is they have forums where questions are asked similar to what you asked "what are some good ways to "break the ice"?"  On these forums all the members join in and answer freely.

Please understand I do not receive any monetary or gift benefit from this site, we have just been in this LifeStyle for quite some time and have seen several site and this one is one of the best so far.

Hoe this helps,
Analisa