About Leesa Expertise I am the owner of Australia's first and only Council approved swingers club with my hubby Bryan.
We have been on the scene for over 17 years.
Owned a club for 4 years and love and live the lifestyle daily.I have extensive knowledge of the lifestyle and how it can affect your relationship or enhance your relationship.
My hubby and I are lucky enough to own our own club and we meet hundreds of patrons every week, some make the lifestyle choice, others find it is not for them.
The whole lifestyle is about communication and you should never enter into it, unless you both are prepared and know that is only about YOU 2 as a couple and not one of you singular.
Ask me your questions i am happy to give you some of my knowledge and hope that you too explore this wonderful lifestyle to see just how fantastic it really is.
It is not all about sex.
Leesa
Experience As above
Organizations couples international is our club in brisbane australia.
Education/Credentials building designers by day, swing club owners by night
Question Hello Leesa,
Admittedly, I can't find the exact category I think I'm looking for here on ExpertCentral. However, given your experience, perhaps you can direct me somewhere---and any of your own comments would be welcome.
My search is for essays, letters, whatever toward the aim of reducing guilt on the part of my married woman secret lover. I am looking for approaches that do not blame her husband. Rather, I am searching for a wide range of soft arguments that I can sift through to find any words that will make her feel better. Of course I realize that there may not be any solution to the dilemma, so we deal with it as is or the weight of the guilt breaks us, or them, apart. Any thoughts other than the advice to not take a married lover? :)
Answer Hi there
I am sorry but i cannot help you.
You see our lifestyle is not at all about infidelity, there is no need for a swinging partner to play up on her partner or visa a versa.
we are open and honest and that is how it all works so wonderfully.
I hope that she can feel better about herself and talk to her partner about her guilt and why she felt the need to explore out of marriage without including her partner in her fantasies. Can i suggest she talks to him and tells him that she has done this and then ask him to share in her journey with her. This may just help, but i am not sure as i am not an expert in that field and certainly dont condone infidelity as a form of sexual release.
It is way hotter to be with your partner to explore this than to do it with all the guilt behind their backs.
we are in a polyamory relationship with another guy and have been for sometime and we all love it and live together, it works for us and my boyfriend knows that he is always 2nd to my husband.
communication and trust are the key factors to a successful relationship like ours.
Leesa
