AboutAnalisa Expertise Questions related to Swinging i.e. Why did you choose to become a swinger, He/She wants
to but I have doubts, How to begin/get started, What is the purpose of swinging, Why
would you become a swinger, Should we/shouldn't we, Rules (Are/Aren't they needed,
What should they be, What should be non-negotiable, What can be compromised, What to
do if rules are ignored or broken), House vs. private parties, Resources to locate other
swingers, What does it mean to take one for the team
Questions we can't answer: Any alternative sexual questions other than swinging, i.e.
Bestiality, Gang Banging, anything to do with minors, B/D or S&M, toilet games, etc. We also don't feel proficient in answering in depth relationship questions, we are not marriage/relationship counselors, if we receive a question that falls into that category we will refer you to seek professional help.
Experience Over 10 years in the Lifestyle, numerous events & encounters (some pleasant & enjoyable and others that were less than)
Organizations NASCA, Good Vibrations, C4P
Education/Credentials Both of us are college educated professionals.
Question My wife knows that I am really into the idea of swinging but she says she is not interested. I think that maybe if we did a little roll playing in the bedroom that it might ease any kind of insecure feelings she might have about swinging. Do you have any suggestions about what kind of roll play to introduce and how to introduce this. We are both open to the idea of roll playing but how do we tie that into the idea of swinging?
Answer Josh,
Maybe you could try talking to her while the two of you are having sex. See if she gets excited imaging she's with another guy or a woman has joined you or another couple is in the room and going to join in. You could also rent a porn and see if she finds it exciting. If neither of these interest her you might just take what she says at face value and believe her when she says she is not interested. I realize that this may not be what you want to hear but, it may also be the truth.
