About Leesa Expertise I am the owner of Australia's first and only Council approved swingers club with my hubby Bryan.
We have been on the scene for over 17 years.
Owned a club for 4 years and love and live the lifestyle daily.I have extensive knowledge of the lifestyle and how it can affect your relationship or enhance your relationship.
My hubby and I are lucky enough to own our own club and we meet hundreds of patrons every week, some make the lifestyle choice, others find it is not for them.
The whole lifestyle is about communication and you should never enter into it, unless you both are prepared and know that is only about YOU 2 as a couple and not one of you singular.
Ask me your questions i am happy to give you some of my knowledge and hope that you too explore this wonderful lifestyle to see just how fantastic it really is.
It is not all about sex.
Leesa
Experience As above
Organizations couples international is our club in brisbane australia.
Education/Credentials building designers by day, swing club owners by night
Adult Swinging - Swinging with friends versus acquaintances
Expert: Leesa - 5/5/2009
Question My boyfriend and I are looking into the swinging lifestyle and we come from two different views of it. My parents were swingers in the 1970's. They were always friends with their group and mom has fallen emotionally for the guys. Mostly because dad spent too much time eye balling other women and not balancing that with compliments to his own wife. They fought over the lifestyle for years because mom
just went along with it to please dad, and eventually quit about 12 years into the marriage. They started up again 20 years later with a new set of friends and again mom fell over for the guy and this finally led to the destruction of their marriage after 38 years, I believe due to dad's neglect of my mother and too much attention to his conquest.
I would love to be able to get into the frame of mind that is required to swing however,I fear sex with strangers for many reasons, STD's for one and I don't want to be involved sexually with friends. My x-husband has had two emotional affairs with female friends without sex (so I think) and I'm afraid of risking this relationship by getting too close to other couples. My boyfriend doesn't seem to care one way or the other.
I have done some research and find some couples are best friends with their partners and others keep a distance.
My persoanl intrigue to the lifestyle is not the sex it's the closeness and honest communication that is the allure. For him it's the opportunity to see how other women's bodies work, he's a curious guy and enjoys the power trip of pleasing other people in sexual ways as well as just being a nice helpful guy. I would prefer to know my partners for safety reasons but that requires being involved on an emotional level. So... I don't know what alternative there is and wonder how do you handle emotional attachments? How do others handle it? What is the view of some people you know who are friends with their partners and those who chose to keep their distance and why? After watching my parents and several of their swinging friends get divorced over it and watching my x get too close to female friends, (and we weren't swingers)
that he neglected his own marrige I'm leery.
Answer Hi there
Sorry for the delay in answering i have been away.
the lifestyle is all about communication, some people use it to try to fix something that may have gone wrong and then they wonder why it breaks up and falls apart.
It seems to me that your parents ( father) was looking for more than a "fuck' as we put it.
there is a big difference between fucking and making love.
We make love with our partners and we fuck others, there is not an emotional connection there at all when we play.
Lifestyle is about respect and communication and if neither of you have that you should not attempt to enter it.
Having said that, Couples International is not all about sex, we are about couples and helping them to explore things that they have not explored before due to work commitiments, stress and all the every day aspects of a stressful life.
If you can come here and just chill out and talk to other like minded adults and maybe watch somethings and be together as a couple and then go home and have great sex together we have then achieved what we have worked so hard to give everyone.
Not sleeazy not yukkkk just a nightclub style venue where you can be YOU and a Couple.
Just sit down together and read our site from top to bottom.
There is a section there about US down the lhs of the homepage. It explains about our first experience at swinging club and how great it was for us a couple to explore our boundries and to enhance our sex.
It is not all about swapping , it is about going out somewhere together and enjoying eachothers company and maybe seeing things that may turn you on as a couple.
it is not sleazy and not full of naked old men wanking off as the common misconception is lead to believe.
Bryan and I have gone to extreme lengths to make the club a comfortable place and somewhere where you and your wife can come and feel safe and comfy without the hassles of nightclub crap like in the city.
leesa Call me if you wish to chat anytime
0411080011
couplesinternational.com.au is our site
