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to but I have doubts, How to begin/get started, What is the purpose of swinging, Why
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What should they be, What should be non-negotiable, What can be compromised, What to
do if rules are ignored or broken), House vs. private parties, Resources to locate other
swingers, What does it mean to take one for the team
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Experience Over 10 years in the Lifestyle, numerous events & encounters (some pleasant & enjoyable and others that were less than)
Organizations NASCA, Good Vibrations, C4P
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Question Hi Analisa
I need advice. My wife and I have been together for 15 years during which time she was overweight. Last year she lost most of it and looks fantastic. Our sex life has been ok despite being hampared by children. She started texting me hints that she wanted to visit a friend of mine on...when questioned she admitted during sex that she thinks we should each have another experience besides one another. I am no prude and I thought it was hot. What we cant agree on is that she wants to do a full swing alone with another man at first and says I cannot be present. I cannot accept this. She says for the sake of our relationship it needs to be done alone because I won't be able to handle seeing it. This really bothers me and she won't budge...I keep telling her no but am afraid that if I forbid her she will do it behind my back. Should I give in even though the thought of it enrages me?
Answer JC,
Maybe rather talking via text you and your wife need to sit down and have an open and honest discussion face to face. One where you tell her how you really feel about this whole situation and what you really want to have happen, instead of texting each other and considering your children a hamper rather than the blessing that they are.
Try a conversation with no blaming only honest presentation of how you feel about certain situations.
