About Leesa Expertise I am the owner of Australia's first and only Council approved swingers club with my hubby Bryan.
We have been on the scene for over 17 years.
Owned a club for 4 years and love and live the lifestyle daily.I have extensive knowledge of the lifestyle and how it can affect your relationship or enhance your relationship.
My hubby and I are lucky enough to own our own club and we meet hundreds of patrons every week, some make the lifestyle choice, others find it is not for them.
The whole lifestyle is about communication and you should never enter into it, unless you both are prepared and know that is only about YOU 2 as a couple and not one of you singular.
Ask me your questions i am happy to give you some of my knowledge and hope that you too explore this wonderful lifestyle to see just how fantastic it really is.
It is not all about sex.
Leesa
Experience As above
Organizations couples international is our club in brisbane australia.
Education/Credentials building designers by day, swing club owners by night
Question I am a woman in the sixties, a widow, and had not had much sex for some years. Recently I have met a man, separated, and we have become sexual partners. He is working too much now..and still has some problems with his ex-wife, so he wants to have intense sexual relationships and want us to get into swinging.
He has some experience with previous sexual partners with whom he has gone into swinging.
I am very attracted to him and our sex is great. I also feel attracted to participate in swinging...but not sure yet...sometimes I feel I am a bit old for this activity...
And, well, we are not a real "couple" as we are not living together.
What questions should I make myself to be sure this will be a nice experience for me?
Thanks,
Yabel
Answer Hi
You are never too old to start swinging,
Swinging is many different forms, and i simply hate the word, as it implies swapping of partners etc, just like in the movies.
However, that is simply not the case.
It takes on many forms.
To engage in the lifestyle you must be secure in your relationship and have a great sense of communication.
Set your rules with each other, never start in this lifestyle without rules for you as a couple
Be very clear as to what you are comfortable with and what you are not comfy with.
Always use No or Yes as answers to what you can and cannot do with eachother or others.
Even if you start doing something and it feels wrong, you CAN stop and say to your partner, ( no i am uncomfortable can we leave )
Communication is the key.
Talk, talk and talk again. Tell eachother how much you love eachother and what is wrong and right for you both or you your self.
Dont ever go into swinging because one party wants to do it, this is certainly reason for disaster, make sure you are really interested and able to do so.
Even can i suggest you go along to a party with NO intentions of participating and just watch, if the idea of watching turns you both on and then you go home and have the best sex ever, that is the best experieince ever, as that is what the lifestyle is about BOTH of you and enhancing your love for eachother or desire to explore eachother more.
The lifestyle is never about the other people, it is simply about you 2 and should always be.
Leesa
