Follow-Ups to Answer from Expert Analisa

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dkh wrote at 2010-01-11 02:58:42
I suggest you do a lot of research. Go to www.swingersboard.com and read and read and read their forums.  What she's asking goes against the philosophy of "only go as fast as the slowest one in the partnership."  She's pushing you.  Not good.  I have a suspicion something may be going on with this person with her already and she's trying to justify it.  Be concerned my friend.

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Brian wrote at 2011-03-09 07:54:37
My wife and I went through the same experiance, she too wanted to try the sing thing but I was hesitant against it. First we tried to do a soft swap and had rules laid down to follow which she immediatly threw out the door. Once we went down that path it was impossible to get back to just us. She would have this other couple over to be with him rather than me and was completely disrespectful towards my feelings. When I tried to tell her that we were done she simply went behind my back and did it. We too have a daughter and if it wasnt for her I would be gone. My wife now says that she regrets it more than ever but its too late, the damage is done. Many people say that swinging can be the best thing for your marriage but ALL RULES must be followed. If either one of you is uncomftorable about something then it simply can not happen. There must be a mutual respect and love for each other above all. Try giving your wife what she needs by asking her during sex what she really wants to try and then do it for her, the two of you.

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