Expert: Analisa - 6/11/2009

Question
First let me thank you for your advice.
I have one question for you...
If a couple ( straight guy and bi-curious woman) are looking for a couple or a single woman to play with, I totally understand that both of them need to approve of the people they play with. But as a bi curious woman, is the woman entitled to approve them more than the guy?
Cos she will be playing with the woman and the guy if they go for a couple.
And if they go for a single woman, then she has to be comfortable with the woman being involved with her guy sexually.
Right?
so does a woman's approval comes before the guy's?
Or is it more important than the guys?


Answer
Niki,

When we (my husband and I) first got into the LifeStyle, we were given some really great advice "Let the women set the pace and choose the partners and things will go much easier." We have always used this as a rule of thumb. No, we don't have it chiseled in stone anywhere but, we use it as a guideline. We never feel that anyone's approval comes before or is more important than anyone else's. Either we are both interested and attracted or nothing happens, that simple. We do not believe in "Taking one for the team" because its just not fair to the person having to do it. Then you get into keeping score, who has "taken it" more than whom, etc.  That sucks all the fun out of it and that's the whole reason for the LifeStyle, to have fun and enhance your relationship, not to create issues.

Hope this helps,
Analisa