AboutAnalisa Expertise Questions related to Swinging i.e. Why did you choose to become a swinger, He/She wants
to but I have doubts, How to begin/get started, What is the purpose of swinging, Why
would you become a swinger, Should we/shouldn't we, Rules (Are/Aren't they needed,
What should they be, What should be non-negotiable, What can be compromised, What to
do if rules are ignored or broken), House vs. private parties, Resources to locate other
swingers, What does it mean to take one for the team
Questions we can't answer: Any alternative sexual questions other than swinging, i.e.
Bestiality, Gang Banging, anything to do with minors, B/D or S&M, toilet games, etc. We also don't feel proficient in answering in depth relationship questions, we are not marriage/relationship counselors, if we receive a question that falls into that category we will refer you to seek professional help.
Experience Over 10 years in the Lifestyle, numerous events & encounters (some pleasant & enjoyable and others that were less than)
Organizations NASCA, Good Vibrations, C4P
Education/Credentials Both of us are college educated professionals.
Question First let me thank you for your advice.
I have one question for you...
If a couple ( straight guy and bi-curious woman) are looking for a couple or a single woman to play with, I totally understand that both of them need to approve of the people they play with. But as a bi curious woman, is the woman entitled to approve them more than the guy?
Cos she will be playing with the woman and the guy if they go for a couple.
And if they go for a single woman, then she has to be comfortable with the woman being involved with her guy sexually.
Right?
so does a woman's approval comes before the guy's?
Or is it more important than the guys?
Answer Niki,
When we (my husband and I) first got into the LifeStyle, we were given some really great advice "Let the women set the pace and choose the partners and things will go much easier." We have always used this as a rule of thumb. No, we don't have it chiseled in stone anywhere but, we use it as a guideline. We never feel that anyone's approval comes before or is more important than anyone else's. Either we are both interested and attracted or nothing happens, that simple. We do not believe in "Taking one for the team" because its just not fair to the person having to do it. Then you get into keeping score, who has "taken it" more than whom, etc. That sucks all the fun out of it and that's the whole reason for the LifeStyle, to have fun and enhance your relationship, not to create issues.
