About Chim Hedo Expertise Questions regarding the lifestyle between couples. How to get started, communication, establishing rules. Where to meet people. Feelings, and how to deal with them. Soft vs full swinging. Bi-sexual women in the lifestyle. Lifestyle vacations. Clubs, events and house parties. How to dress and not to dress. Introducing "Vanilla" friends.
Experience Female 15 years in the lifestyle. Married 27.
Publications Currently writing a book on the lifestyle.
Education/Credentials human sexuality
Awards and Honors Host couple at many large Canadian Events. Started Ontario's largest on-line lifestyle site. Host and MC for many Ontario clubs.
Question First let me thank you for your advice.
I have one question for you...
If a couple ( straight guy and bi-curious woman) are looking for a couple or a single woman to play with, I totally understand that both of them need to approve of the people they play with. But as a bi curious woman, is the woman entitled to approve them more than the guy?
Cos she will be playing with the woman and the guy if they go for a couple.
And if they go for a single woman, then she has to be comfortable with the woman being involved with her guy sexually.
Right?
so does a woman's approval comes before the guy's?
Or is it more important than the guys?
Answer Hi Niki
Perfect scenario is that both people are comfortable with the playmate(s). From my own experience in the lifestyle, the woman always has the upper hand and makes the yah or nah. Happy wife, happy life right??? If your playing with a straight couple, then as long as you are comfortable with the man, and your partner is comfortable with the woman, nothing should hold you back. If it is a bi-fem you are playing with, then ultimately you should have the final say.
Good luck!
Chim
