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Question Hi,to make a long story short, my wife and I have enjoyed having sex with other, and find the "naughtiness" of it, and the experience, very exciting indeed..
We have had only few get together with a very nice couple, however, it has not become a too fulfilling experience.
We usually start out by each of us starting foreplay with our respective wives, in usually the living room.
We become partially undressed then, sometimes we just stretch out our hands and exchange partners there in the livingroom or other times we go to the bedroom with our respective wives and after a little more foreplay , we disrobe and exchange partners...
The thing is that while I am having sex with his wife, she must be so into it, that she begins to experience an orgasm quite quickly.
And as soon as he notices his wife is having an orgasm with me, he immediately cums inside my wife.
My wife does not want to meet up with them anymore because,and rightly so , she claims all he enjoys is watching his wife cummig with me....My wife and I laugh at some of the excuses were going to use not to meet up anymore, and one of them is we've cought religion.....or that were repentant or some other lame excuse.. We really don't want to hurt their feelings.
Answer Dear Oscar:
That's too bad, I would suggest that you try honesty or even delaying her gratification until you see your wife experiencing orgasm. Another approach is to suggest a group encounter rather than a pairing off. Maybe even a comment of how easy the other woman seems to come to orgasm that your wife is often left "high & dry" literally. If all of this sounds too confrontational and you choose to 'end it' then I would suggest rather than resorting to the lying just avoiding them and being generally "unavailable" they may get the message.
