Expert: Leesa - 7/1/2009

Question
My husband and I have been talking about swinging for a long time....I was wondering how to deal with the morning after?  Is sex between us still special?  

Answer
Before you enter the swinging lifestyle make sure you have set your rules.
No one should defer from the rules. If you decide to continue and play with others, make sure it is all about you 2 and not the other couple or single.
If at any stage you feel uncomfortable in the situation SIOP, as it is simply not that important to have sex with others.
The lifestyle is all about you 2 as a couple never go to a party or house party with any expectations, but if it happens it happens, and make sure you both stick to your rules.
Never take a Whatever as a yes, the rules are simply no or yes if you want to play.
Leave the room if either of you is comfortable as there is no need to continue.
The morning after should be so special for you both. You see, you make love to your husband, and you use the others simply as a tool to enhance your relationship.
Never take phone numbers, never get attached or emotionally attached to someone, the lifestyle is about 2 of you and no one else.
Hope that helps.
Leesa