About Leesa Expertise I am the owner of Australia's first and only Council approved swingers club with my hubby Bryan.
We have been on the scene for over 17 years.
Owned a club for 4 years and love and live the lifestyle daily.I have extensive knowledge of the lifestyle and how it can affect your relationship or enhance your relationship.
My hubby and I are lucky enough to own our own club and we meet hundreds of patrons every week, some make the lifestyle choice, others find it is not for them.
The whole lifestyle is about communication and you should never enter into it, unless you both are prepared and know that is only about YOU 2 as a couple and not one of you singular.
Ask me your questions i am happy to give you some of my knowledge and hope that you too explore this wonderful lifestyle to see just how fantastic it really is.
It is not all about sex.
Leesa
Experience As above
Organizations couples international is our club in brisbane australia.
Education/Credentials building designers by day, swing club owners by night
Adult Swinging - my boyfriend is swinging with a married woman
Expert: Leesa - 8/4/2009
Question QUESTION: i dont really know what to do here. this is not the first time, but my boyfriend (now ex but we still live together) thinks that this woman is going to leave her husband for him.(hes her 5th affair in 3 years) i know that she wont shes having her cake and eating it,giving him excuses like, "just one more xmas with him and the kids, then ill throw him out". they meeting while her husband is at work then going to see other couples and going to swing clubs. (they met on a swinging site) in the meantime i have found someone else, but we still share the same house for now (its my house ) and i siad i would let him stay till she throws her husband out, but its dragging on a bit now. i dont want to see him on the street and when i tell him shes not going to leave her husband, he tells me to mind my own business. it really hurt at first as i did love him, now i dont care who he goes with. but this woman is taking advantage, i want her to get rid of her husband so i can have my life back! they are all over swing sites as a couple and they are not, they lie just to get sex with other couples. i want to know if this goes on a lot i mean... people pretending to be couples when they are not. maybe this is the wrong place for me to put it all i dont know, its just im frustrated to what i can do here. and its not the sort of thing i can ask advice from friends and family, they will think its disgusting. i just feel so trapped, i want to live a normal life again and i cant while hes here. the actual question is, shall i throw him out regardless of her throwing her hubby out or not.
ANSWER: Hi there
Thanks for your question.
One important thing that i noticed is that you said he was your X, and you just live together.
I cant talk for him or for you, but it seems that if you are not together as a couple, what he does is his business.
You may not understand why or what he does, but that is simply something that he is doing.
I dont agree with what the Lady is doing as there is no room for cheating in the swinging scene at all. So that is her problem, and it seems that he is just along for the ride.
Sorry i cant help more, but it is a sticky one, and one that i think you are best leaving alone, If he cared for you he would stop and come back to you sexually, but it seems he is more interested in the thrill of playing and that is sad.
Leesa
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QUESTION: thank you for your answer.
the reason he is my ex is because i cought him on these sites and i found out about it. all our families and friends think we are still a couple, and its the pretending thats hurting. he knows his mother will be devastated. he seems to think that us living like this is conveneient, but its not so conveneient anymore, cos he dont realise it still hurts, i was left with a feeling or worthlessness, so i found myself someone to make me feel good about myself again. so to me he is my ex, to everyone else, we are still a couple. it seems like he dont want this to be over, like he wants to go swinnging with her, and im at home doing the laundry. now i have written it here for the first time, makes me feel a bit used to be honest. thing is i want a serious relationship now with the guy i have found, and the "ex" cant understand why i want him to leave. my new partner dont approve of it.
Answer Honey, you deserve better.
Be true to yourself, and move on and be happy, I know that is easy said, and hard done, but you deserve it and should not think any less of yourself for moving on.
We all need to feel loved and wanted, and i am sure you do to.
So seek the happiness you deserve and dont look back.
Leesa
