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HI
we are married cpls arabs. we have been talking about swinging for the past 7 years but nothing happened . i guess wife is not ready yet although sheb seems very excited when we talk about it in bed ..she just enjoys watching me masterbating while watching other women and for me it will be a thrill if i see her with another man ...My wife is domminant and loves humilating me by saying that she needs a real man .. iam confused and dont know if she would do it one day , sometimes i decide that i want stop talking about this topic cz its hurting me a lot cz its only talks nothing real .
So can you advise and tell me wht to do ? also is there clubs in europe where i can go with my wife watch others having sex or may be let others watch us but no swinging ... please help
Dear Terry,
Why don't you sit down with your wife and have a straightforward and honest conversation with her and just ASK her if you two are going to go for it or not? If she says No, then ask her to stop the bed talk as it is causing great confusion for you. If she says yes, then lay some ground rules and good luck.
Hope this helps,
Analisa
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Analisa
Expertise
Questions related to Swinging i.e. Why did you choose to become a swinger, He/She wants to but I have doubts, How to begin/get started, What is the purpose of swinging, Why would you become a swinger, Should we/shouldn't we, Rules (Are/Aren't they needed, What should they be, What should be non-negotiable, What can be compromised, What to do if rules are ignored or broken), House vs. private parties, Resources to locate other swingers, What does it mean to take one for the team Questions we can't answer: Any alternative sexual questions other than swinging, i.e. Bestiality, Gang Banging, anything to do with minors, B/D or S&M, toilet games, etc. We also don't feel proficient in answering in depth relationship questions, we are not marriage/relationship counselors, if we receive a question that falls into that category we will refer you to seek professional help.
Experience
Over 10 years in the Lifestyle, numerous events & encounters (some pleasant & enjoyable and others that were less than)
Organizations
NASCA, Good Vibrations, C4P
Education/Credentials
Both of us are college educated professionals.
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